If you are going to use the internet for online dating then it is vital you learn to recognise the signs of an online dating scam.
Signals of dating scams are quite easy to ignore if you are earnestly looking for someone to love you.
I say ‘to love you’ and not ‘find someone you can love’ because it is our emotional needs that these people prey on.
Before we look at specific dating scams you need to know the basics …
What is an online dating scammer?
There are two types of predators using online dating sites, players and scammers.
Players are looking for notches on their bedpost and this post will tell you how to spot and online dating player.
While both are playing on your emotional vulnerability, a scammer is a person who contacts you on an online dating site with the intention of making money from you, either for personal gain or for their employer.
Scammers are simply actors who play a role online to entice you to part with your money. They often have scripts and receive a percentage of the ‘profits’ they con out of you.
What is an online dating scam?
Dating scams come in many different forms but all share the same intention, to get you to pay.
The amounts of money involved vary, usually starting off with small requests for money so they can top up their mobile phone to call you (remember that 10 pounds sterling can equal a weeks pay in a poor country) but can lead to thousands of pounds once they have you hooked.
Consumer Direct (the UK Governments consumer protection website) defines a scammer as:
“An online dating scam is when a scammer, male or female, creates a false personal profile and makes contact with you via an online dating agency or even a specialised chat room. The scammer says that they are seeking romance or a soul mate but are really out to steal not only your heart but your cash too.”
This isn’t just the Nigerian ‘send a money order’ scam we are all hopefully familiar with now.
Other forms of scams involve getting you to visit premium rate websites or call premium rate telephone numbers.
There is also the ‘I want to meet you but need flight money, insurance, cash, visa’ or whatever but of course on the day of travel their second cousin twice removed suddenly has a sick gerbil so they can’t travel. Of course they can’t possibly get a refund but if you send more money they will travel next month.
Over the next few posts we will look at some very specific scams, how to spot a dating scammer, the dating scammers toolbox and how to avoid scammers on online dating sites.
Where do scammers hang out?
Scammers are more often than not found on free dating websites, they are in this game to make money not spend it.
Those that do pay to join dating sites will join the largest international sites, as this offers a greater number of potential victims but no site is totally safe from scammers.
They will also join forums and chat rooms specifically for lonely hearts or dating.
People often mistakenly believe that scammers are male Africans but a quick look at the US Embassy website in Russia has an excellent question and answer section about internet dating scams which tells a very different story.
Victims of dating scams are stupid
If this is your opinion then think again. Surveys of victims of dating scams have shown that most are well educated, hard working singles and dare I say very ‘normal’ people.
One of the reasons these people get away with online dating scams is because their victims all believe they are not the type of person who could fall for a scammer, often believing they can spot a scammer a mile away.
We tend to hear more about women being scammed than men because men are less likely to come forward and admit they were scammed, however both men and women are regularly scammed online.
It is so important for all online daters to be educated and aware of online dating scams, which we will look at more closely in future posts. Remember to follow our 5 golden rules for online dating safety but for now we have answered the question of what is an online dating scam.
June 11th, 2009 at 2:01 pm
I’m not understanding this, so why are people trying to date people from other countries? It seems like you should play it safe and date people from your country only – but of course I can see some people having a real reason to date out of country but for the majority of us why would we..!?
June 11th, 2009 at 10:57 pm
Hi Sean
Many of the scammers simply lie about which country they live in, people need to join dating sites which check out profiles and don’t accept bogus ones.
January 6th, 2010 at 11:44 pm
Hey there,
I recently got scammed on this site: christiansinglesnet.net
Be careful on online dating scam!
Her user name is Laila Amidu and that’s a fake. She will eventually ask for money, after promising infinite love. Then she’ll disappear.
As usual…
January 10th, 2010 at 5:50 am
Hi Mark
Fogive me but how could you not know there was something wrong with that profile? Perhaps I am just so used to scammers now that their profiles just jump out at me.
Rather than go through the profile here I will do a post about it and point out what screams scammer at me.
If you are sure she is a scammer (I have no doubt whatsoever having looked at the profile) please can you go to romancescam.com and leave all “her”(?) details there.
Don’t give up on online dating, just read through my blog so you know what to look for.
February 24th, 2010 at 11:34 am
Hi, scammer is Tommy Wills and is looking for money to pay for BTA from nigeria, he claims to be a widow and have a daughter called wendy
May 21st, 2010 at 9:39 pm
BTA — no such animal, this is a love scam used to indicate that they are unable to leave a country because they are not a true citizen of that country. Do not fall for it. The word that makes this a scam is allowances, look up the defination of allowances if the word requirement, that could be geniune like extra baggages there may be extra fees required. What i do the minute they hit me with BTA, Disconnect the conversation and dont deal with email addr any further. If your curious and want to know where exactly the email originated from copy paste email addr, then google whois trace email, then go back to the actual email contents and display full header, you should have that in your email options. copy and past the full headears to the area provided for whois. then select trace, will pin point within 600 yards of where this person located. give you the country as well, map will display you can zoom and look at almost the exact dwelling of scammer.
June 1st, 2010 at 5:19 am
I was just tried to be scammed by this name Collins.more or Clemente collins. He got my information from match.com we started sharing messages , all of them beautiful love letters for almost 2 weeks until he said he travel to africa for a very important bussines , once there he was supposed to travel to my country with his daughter to meet me, it was supposed to happen this week, however just last night contactd me telling me he lost his wallet and had to cancel all credit cards, then at 1 a.m.he called me telling me he needed to pay $4.500 as tax and he did not have any cash. he was asking me to check his bank acccount and wire transfer this amount to my account and then send him the money through western union which i realized was a scam . I did not want to do it , i contacted my bank and explained and then re-checked his bank account and noticed it was a simple website he built probably for people to wire transfer money. his account was supposible of more than 300.0000 euros and I was surprised he game all his passwords, etc. to manage the account… today i sent him a message letting him know I am aware he is trying to cheat me and then i found a lot of information on the net regarding the Nigeria nets used to scam people. Bellow is all the bank information he provided for me to wire the money. just want to share it with you to avoid possible fraud.
I have like 30 messages we interchanged, all of them very well writen. He was prettending to be a business man from Manchester , who had a 12 year old child and whose ex-wife had cheated him with his best friend and then had died in a car accident. a very sad story to make any woman´s heart weak
Baby this is the link………….http://firstprivbhld.com/firstprivate/ebanking/Login.php
USER ID………………..67730100
PIN………………………1025
Honey you will asked to provide these codes during your course of transfer for verification.
Cost of Transfer Code: COT2141
Non Residential Tax Code: TX4312
Anti-Terrorist Code: ATI5645
Demurrage Code: DM8945
Marginal Fluctuation Difference Code: MFD734
Honey after speaking with your bank please call me to come online so that i can direct you. I want you to transfer $6000 so you will send me $4500 and then keep the rest for us to spend when we come on friday
June 1st, 2010 at 5:39 am
Hi Sony
Great call and thanks so much for the information. I have found out where they stole the login page from so shall do a blog post about this.
June 3rd, 2010 at 12:24 am
Sure… i just want to help other people to prevent from these criminals. I think dating websites should have a kind of advice blogs for clients telling about these criminals , dont you thing so
Here is one of the last message he sent me
De: rooney Brown [mailto:rooney.brown@yahoo.co.uk]
Enviado el: Domingo, 30 de Mayo de 2010 02:53 p.m.
Asunto: My Love for you is Genuine
sweetheart i want you to know that God put you in my life and i in yours for a reason and that is to complement each other.We were meant to be together it was just a matter of us meeting.I am glad we have been exchanging emails.
My love for you is genuine and i want you to be free with me for i wouldn’t hurt you. I love you because you bring the best out of me. I love whom, I have become since I have known you. I love your terrific sense of humor. Every time I look in your eyes in the pictures of you, my heart misses a beat. I enjoy exchanging mails with you. You are simply irresistible.
Sometimes I feel lost and out of touch, but knowing you are there makes me feel safe.I could sit here and try to tell you just how I feel, only I can’t find the words other than I am happy we met and have gotten together after all we’ve gone through
You make me feel loved, you make me feel needed, but more importantly, you make me feel wanted. That is something that I hadn’t felt in a very long time. We will slowly grow into a beautiful relationship that only you and I can understand.
You are becoming my best friend, my lover and my soul mate. You are a blessing that my entire being is very thankful for. I feel that we were made to love, listen, understand, and work through all times in our lives together, a truly rare gift.
We have both gone through so much in our lives; we’ve both been hurt and have lost trust in others, but I ask you to give me a chance as I give you one. I don’t ask for much, only for you to love me as I am and not to hurt me as I would not hurt you. I only wish to be by your side and with no one else.
From this moment on, we have each other and all the time to be in each other’s arms.
When I say I love you it is truly meant.
Love always,
Collins
xoxoxoxoxo
— On Sun, 30/5/10, Sonia Rojas wrote:
De: rooney Brown [mailto:rooney.brown@yahoo.co.uk]
Enviado el: domingo, 30 de mayo de 2010 1:3
Asunto: I was busy all through yesterday
Hi baby,
I am trying to sign in now but i am having difficulties signing in. That was very nice of the woman to walk my baby and i’m glad to know you it was a nice experience for you. My day was stressfull yesterday. I went to buy some more pieces of art works and we travelled a distance of tewo hours by road and after purchasing i started wrapping the ones i wanna wrap cause i will be paying for the cargo plane to take them away to England on monday.
We have not really had time for sight seeing, i hope to do that as soon as i am through with my business here. I should be through by monday so from tuesday to thursday when we leave we have all the time to rest and visit placces. You know i don’t wanna be tired when i come, i want to hold you in my arms and make love to you all night long.
I am so anxious to meet you too honey,
I Love you so much,
Collins
De: rooney Brown [mailto:rooney.brown@yahoo.co.uk]
Enviado el: sábado, 29 de mayo de 2010 11:09
Asunto: Even in Point of death
My Darling sonia,
Even in point of death i will still have good things to say about you, you are the one that have won my life and I vow that u will be my wife I must fulfill my vow.A warm hello to let you know today brings to mind thoughts of you this note filled with lots of wishes good health and happiness too, best of life in whatever you do, may you be filled with every good thing your heart desires most and whatever happens I wish you success no one deserves it more than you. THAT IS PART ONE
I HAVE FOUND MY HAPPINESS IN YOU. love is not measured by moments together it;s measured in happiness given by one another, a joy thats last forever with you my wife I know i have all the love and care, my heart could ever desire with you. I Know i have someone I could trust. Some one I colud love with my heart someone I could confide in someone I could tell my fears. someone I could share my joy with and now in my quiet moments especially when I lay my head on my pillow thinkiing of you my heart desires to love you more and bring happiness to your life just as you bring happiness to my life. I am doing fine here honey, i am counting the days left before i see you.
It really means so much, very much to know someone like you , you’ re the one who makes me happy in a million little ways, your tenderness and loving care bring joy to all my days ,, there can never ever be anyone who’s loved as much as you ever loved by me. honey i promise to all ways love you in life.
Baby i can’t wait to be with you to make sweet love to you everyday.
I love you with all my heart
Collins
De: rooney Brown [mailto:rooney.brown@yahoo.co.uk]
Asunto: To be close to you
I know the miles keep us from touching hands or kissing lips but To Be Close To You is all that i desire.
I know our love is young and the road to interlocking our hearts is long but To Be Close To You is all that i desire.
I know life can be tough and the world we have come from has been hurtful but To Be Close To You is all that i desire.
To hold your hand, To have my arms hold you, To kiss your lips, To Be Close To You is all that i desire.
I’m Yours Forever …
Collins
P.S no baby i don’t have to be in England when the arts arrived, like i told you, i am shipping the art works to them. On receipt of the arts, they will make the balance payment into my accou
June 3rd, 2010 at 10:03 am
Hi Sony
This blog was started as an advice site for my dating website (hence the strange URL) but I agree, I wish more sites would do it and tell the bad with the good.
Did you not get suspicious when his English kept changing? Some sound like a foreigner writing English and another is written in clear English …. isn’t hindsight a bit of a bugger.
June 3rd, 2010 at 2:38 pm
hI sALLY
Well I must say that all his messages were so good, so well written that I did not realize. I suspected when he called me and I noticed he did not have english accent neither his “12 years daughter” looked to have 12 years. I noticed she was a woman speaking as a child. When he first contacted me on match.com I had a message of “prepaid reply” as I did not pay subscription. The message said he was a “premium user”. but then when he contacted me he said he only had few hours in the website when he found me. He said he was so in love with my picture which also was strange for me, but finally he started sending very beautiful love letters that I started to think he was real. Besides this I did not know about this scammers, it is the first time that happens to me but fortunately i am not stupid at all , when he starting asking about the money i realized he was a cheater so I started looking for information on dating fraud and I got to this site. I made it sure to let him know i knew they were scammers.
I found he has other opictures at myspace.com same name collins clemente but different pictures. I think all dating sites should have a list of the users they use to avoid them. I was not interested in dating again on internet, although i know i will be able to find out a new scammer but it is like a sad experience to know how this people play with other people feelings just to make money.
By the way Sally I have not asked, were you aso scammed? Or were you ready to leave on time as I did? I have his profile and will look for it, but the information he wrote there was very nice, I would not realize it was false as I would have written a similar profile of mine. I found it very real, a romantic, hard working man, looking for the same in a woman.
June 6th, 2010 at 1:43 am
Hi Sony
I have been scammed online but not by an African. Many years ago when I was first dating online I fell for an English guy from a very reputable dating site. His work took him around Europe so I got emails and calls from many countries … how exciting …. to cut a long story short it turned out that rather than working for a living he found it easier to get women to pay for his life. He had women in every country “advancing” him money until a cheque cleared or a business deal went through. His family were devastated when I contacted his sister and she said “OMG no, has he started that again”. They were a very respectable family and I felt so upset for them. I also did some investigating and contacted all the women involved and we became friends, other than one silly women in Switzerland who decided she loved him and would take him in full time .. love is indeed blind.
So it just goes to show you, it doesn’t matter what country a person comes from or what their lifestyle or background is like, there are people out there prepared to use anyone for money. The moment anyone you meet online asks you for 1 pound, yen or dollar ….. RUN AWAY.
June 8th, 2010 at 2:37 am
Wow Sally that is a story!! I can see now why you decided to open your own dating site and this one to help other people not to be scammed. I can{t believe how people, knowing they are being scammed, they continue sending money because they are in love… I always say to myself that I have a great value and that only a man who values me deserves my love. Asking for money is not a way to value someone so why should I continue with a relationship like this. I hope that people learn how to identify these criminals and stop playing their games.
June 8th, 2010 at 10:12 am
Hi Sony
What a brilliant attitude and I hope others will follow your example. Real love should never include requests for money but also real love takes time to grow and doesn’t happen in a week on the internet!
June 8th, 2010 at 5:46 am
I guess i am in trouble now… i cant seem to get my money back from the young lady in need that i sent it to.. How can i get it back ?
June 8th, 2010 at 10:10 am
Hi Ron
I’m sorry, my understanding is that it is virtually immpossible to get your your money back. One major stumbling block for law inforcement is that you sent the money willingly and even if the scammer were in the same country as you they would simply say it was a gift to help them out or a love token to buy themselves a gift. Even if you had a rock solid contract if they are in Africa your country is unlikely to go to the expense of extradition proceeding for a few thousand dollars, which to you or I is a great deal of money but compared to extradition costs is a drop in the ocean.
If the transaction was recent and from bank to bank then talk to your bank to see if they can do anything (I’m guessing it was Western Union though).
If you have reported the fraud to your authorities then they will advise if there is anything they can do but in a vast majority of cases you have to accept the money is gone and learn a very hard lesson.
June 13th, 2010 at 1:35 pm
Hello I am from Australia & I have now realised that I have too been scammed to the tune of $9922 Australian Dollars. Did not realise at the time with all the love letters etc etc. Yes the same old, same old as you all have wrote about & that I now have read similar to. Isn’t so sad that we are so gullible & so wanting this “perfect” love life that we really do believe these scammers. OBVIOUSLY WE DO BECAUSE WE ARE HERE. My scammer was Joshua James Stein – email jstein31339@yahoo.com – Phone number 447943585163 I Was given this address: Albemarle Street, London W1S 4HQ UK. Can you please display this wherever is needed to bring others attention to this person?
June 14th, 2010 at 11:22 am
Hi Tanah
Thanks for the information, I have checked out the story behind this information and indeed this person is a scammer so am happy to publish their details.
June 29th, 2010 at 8:38 am
Hi,
In reference to Tanah of June 13th, 2010. I also am a victim of Joshua James Stein. I have all his emails from his email address. joshua.stein33139@yahoo.com. He gave me various London numbers which were false and told me that he was an American who was in London on business and then was relocating to Lizard Island, Australia on the 16/7/10. He said that he was a sub contractor to a major contractor supplying field staff to do the roads on Lizard Island. He actually rang me three times and sounded not very American. He stated that he was staying at the Radison in London, which one I am not sure of.
He actually contacted me on Match.com and started writing emails to me professing love in a very short time. I upset his plans when I told him I did not have any money. He gave me a sob story, about being single for the last 10 years, his wife cheating on him and taking all his money, and having a 18 year old son called Wayne. He disclosed that he was from New York city, but originated from Tampa, Florida. His business was real Estate and he professed to have many houses around the world.
As I had been previously duped by a Frenchman Called Jean Yan Riacca who worked for the Hotel Des Champs Elysees, 2 Rue D’Artois, Paris, I didn’t quite believe this Joshua James Stein in professing his love so early and freely. Well, the laugh is on him, as I do not have any money for him to rey and scam.
I am willing to share his emails with whoever would like a good laugh.
Women beware JOSHUA JAMES STEIN IS SCUM.
July 2nd, 2010 at 9:51 pm
A lot of online dating sites are scams. I have read some reviews on some of the top dating sites like match.com and they dont have a customer care dept and dont reply to emails. E harmony have been know for taking money from peoples accounts for no reason. Sites that advertise that they are FREE usually are until you get inside and there are google ads everywhere and the site is very busy with useless information.
check out ************ the site is very simple and easy to use.
July 19th, 2010 at 3:56 am
yup….i was pretty moved by this guy, Tobson Louis Kennedy from Manchester, UK. Gave me all his details, even a death certificate of “his late wife”, n a scanned passport of his. Which at first glance, i thought they had to be fake.
But i kept it to myself, n kept playing along, just out of curiosity.
Until at one point, he dropped the bomb, asking for “financial assistance”.
so i said, straight to the point, i dont have that kind of money.
I can only help u with 10 USD, which is 100.000,00 IDR (Indonesian).
(it was kinda funny)
then he said, no problem. since then, i havent heard anything from him.
I’ve googled everything i could on his details, non of them matched the “exact” informations. Everything went “blur”, like maybe the building name is correct, but the street name doesn’t match.
here are some of his details,
Name : Tobson L. Kennedy
Place/date of Birth : Florida/ 15 March,1970
Cellphone : +447031746887, +447879905403
My Office Address : Unit 12 Wheelforge Way, Ashburton Park,
Manchester, Lancashire M17 1EH, United Kingdom
My residence address (UK) : 15A,Atkin St,Worsley,Manchester M28 3NJ
My home address:(USA) : 6256 163rd Drive , Live Oak, Florida 32060 USA
Parents Name : Mark (father), Died
Valina (mother), 74 years old
Brothers and Sisters
NON
My Late Wife’s Name :Carlos Kennedy
Age :33yrs
Died Feb.,2006
My Education
Infants and Future (Kindergarten) at Live Oak
live aok pupils ( Elementary school) live oak
Memorial college
Kent University( B.Eng.. Civil Engineering) UK.
My work Experience
Marken plc ( own Business)
They’r all seem too good to be true…..
By the way, I met him on IndonesianCupid, n I’m from Jakarta, Indonesia.
July 19th, 2010 at 6:55 am
Hi Jasmine
Well done for checking up on him and recognising that something wasn’t right. Like all scammers, if you close the door to finances as soon as they ask then they will lose interest and go onto the next victim.
There are a few things wrong with his story and I will point them out so hopefully others will know what to look for but you are right, when you google his information it will all be mixed up. This is because they simply invent persona’s made up of information they take from the internet.
1. Christian and Surnames – African’s often don’t know which are Christian or Surnames or even male or female names. The name Tobson only comes up 3 times in google as a Christian name (that I can find from a quick look) and 2 of those are from Nigeria. Tobson appears to be a place name not a persons name. Also his wife was called Carlos, which is a man’s name (it actually means “free man”). His mother’s Christian name Valina also appears to be a Surname, although I have only searched in English.
2. Mobile phone numbers – always google mobile numbers, the first one he gave you comes up on a site about international fraud and a lottery scam site .. that should sound alarm bells. +4470 was the most commonly used number by Nigerian scammers and is simply an international call forwarding service. That way they can give you a +44 number (United Kingdom) but they are sitting in sunny Nigeria and you are none the wiser.
3. He claims to own a public limited company (a company which can offer shares on the market) and yet needs to ask for financial assistance from a stranger on the internet .. I don’t think so. The company he mentions also doesn’t exist as a plc, there was a Marken Ltd but it was sold.
4. The business address he gave you belongs to this company .rwsalt.co.uk/contact-us.html .. just add the www. in front.
Remember ladies and gentlemen, get as much detail as you can from internet contacts and check everything. If something seems to be a dead end mix the words up and see what you can find.
July 19th, 2010 at 10:27 am
WOW Sally, TQ so much on the inputs.
Before i went to this blog, i kept wondering how could he get pictures, even of his parents, n while with his parents (when his dad was still alive). It all seemed so true, until the point where he asked for the assistance. Now I’m more convinced that he truly is a Con-Man.
TQ so much, again. N guess what, now i received another message from the dating site, from another person. I received an email from him, practically familiar with Tobson’s. N I thought to myself, u gotta b kidding me, why isn’t there any REAL-MAN?…
July 19th, 2010 at 10:41 am
Hi Jasmine
The photo’s he has sent you will probably be from another scam. The photos will be genuine but they would have been sent from a man in the UK or US to a “female” scammer and on each new scam they just use the details from the scam before. If you read all the scam posts on this blog you will see I traced one scammer back through 3 victims, each time they just used the information from the last victim to give to the new victim.
There are plenty of real men out there, we just have to know what to look for and be realistic about our expectations. Scam victims usually go for the ones who sound or look too good to be true … because they are!!
July 19th, 2010 at 10:44 am
I have checked Companies House in the UK and there is definately no Marken plc registered.
July 19th, 2010 at 12:07 pm
hmmm….ok, Sally…
Maybe I’ll just stop being curious now. If they are real, they will eventually come around to see me in person.
TQ for ur assistance…
July 19th, 2010 at 12:38 pm
If you’re still not sure Jasmine you can send me the copies of the death certificate for his wife and passport and I’ll check them out.
If you want to just use the Ask a Dating Question link at the very top of the blog and send me an email, I’ll reply and then you can send the attachments.
July 19th, 2010 at 1:57 pm
yeah u guys fool so we have to do that to u.anyway am sorry..but that is what we do..
July 19th, 2010 at 3:57 pm
don’t u have anything better to do ADESA ? Maybe like, learn better english ?
July 29th, 2010 at 7:44 pm
Just remember that there’s no guarantee anyone you meet on an online dating site will be who they claim to be. This is true even for religious-based sites like Jewish or Christian dating sites. While we should hope for the best and carry a joyful expectancy in the search for true love, do like Reagan said and “Trust but verify.”
August 4th, 2010 at 10:26 am
Tanah and Katherin (13th June)
Joshua James Stein currently has a profile on match.com as 2heartsturns1.
Thanks for the warning – he contacted me and his email contradicts his profile.
August 6th, 2010 at 6:59 pm
Hi Jasmine (refer to your note above on July 19th): I am currently in contact with the same description guy (Tobson Louis Kennedy)you mentioned above. We are currently in contact through Yahoo Messenger for 3rd week as at todate.
This guy contact me via AsianDting.Com his name is Harry Cannon, Diretor of Marken PLC, after email exchanged recently he prove me his sincerity by email me his wife death cert, his company name card, his passport copy, his photos and his parent photos, the detais same as stated in your note dated 19th July except the name is not Tobson Loius Kennedy! it is Harry Cannon.
Well today (6th Aug),I was so shocked when I suddently go to google to check on his company and I saw this site on what you wrote, it is now happen to me, he even claim that next week he will be travelling to Malaysia to collect his late dad monies US$2million owed to his fmily and he will stop-by to Singapore to meet up with me to discuss about our marriage, he even get a lady (he claimed she is his mother) to talk to me to proves his mother blessing to our relationship!.
Harry also proposed his idea wanna marry me at our chat room! this doubt me, how can someone wants to marry you when there is no face to face meeting and do not even know you well! I just go along with him and even trust him!
BTW… are we talking bout the same guy? address and contact number provide by Jasmine is same as the email attachement that i received.
Frens… I’m innocent person here, my aim joinig this dating site is to find true love, it is so happen that Harry comes at the right time and with this fairytales story and for me just to believe like that, what you guys think? what should I do? I really fallen for him and looking forward to his visit at my country here.
Now, today (7th August 2010), I really doubtful!
Please help!
Rosy.
August 9th, 2010 at 11:30 pm
Hi Rosy
Sorry I didn’t reply sooner I have been very busy for a couple of days.
I will email you directly.
June 20th, 2011 at 11:17 am
Hi Sally,
I am so glad that i have found your website. I think i am in the midst of a scam.. I am an asian and i got to know this guy from a dating website. He said he is an american but is living in UK now. No father but mom is in US with sister. He said he liked me within a week since we started emailing each other.His no. too starts with +447 but when i try calling him from skype to mobile, i cannot get thru.. Now he in Malaysia receiving about USD2 million monies on behalf of his father. He has not yet asked me for any financial assistance money but he has sent be the agreement between the Co. in malaysia and Marken Plc. when i google that website i came across your site.He have said that he will be coming over to my country to see me once his done there. i am really worried and confused now… what am i to do sally?
Worried and confused
June 21st, 2011 at 6:04 pm
Hi GG
Have sent you an email directly. Email the contract to me and I’ll have a look but the story and the use of Marken make me immediately suspicious.
June 27th, 2011 at 9:46 am
sally, i am scammed but the same person as GG mentioned the contract is Marken PLC but the address 4 Industrial Park East Oxford, Massachuette, United Kingdom is a complete fault. I am scammed since last Wednesday and wired through wester union USD10,000 to him in three times of three difference excuses. I am sorry of myself being not careful to check the company name and address.
I think he is particularly on asian woman
July 1st, 2011 at 4:20 pm
Hi Esther
I am so sorry you have been scammed. Indeed if he find he can get money from Asian women easily then of course he will keep going after them … so sad.
August 10th, 2010 at 5:54 am
Dear Rosy,
I’m certain that who ever he is, definitely a scammer.
I’m sure Sally can forward my emails to you too, if u wanna take a look at his photos n details.
Don’t hope for anything from him, accept a request for financial assistance.
I can tell, same story of what he told me.
Try datingnmore com, we can b friends, n share stories of scammers,hehee…
Jasmine
August 10th, 2010 at 6:15 pm
Hi Jasmine
Rosy sent me the documents and photos. He’s using a different set of photos but the documents are all the same, just with a different surname. Another scam foiled YAY
August 11th, 2010 at 6:35 am
WOW Sally!
hahaaa…i thought so too, YAY !
August 11th, 2010 at 1:35 pm
ta ladies. I have also had contact from
Joshua James Stein via his profile on match.com 2heartsturns1.
Thanks for the warning – he contacted me early aug2010. his email is somewhat disjointed and contradicts his profile. He uses a nice photo on his profile……..bet he’s probably not so nice.
August 29th, 2010 at 12:27 am
Hi Sally
WoAw! I am so impressed by your work here, you are great!
I was just about to be a victim of a scamer, but unfortunately for him, I am not born yesterday.
His name is David Smith,35 years old from New Jersey, he claims he is a model and sends some gorgeous pictures of a model, begging to not show them to anybody!!!!! He claims also that he has a 9 years old son which is actually adding me instantly on messenger and calls me ‘momy’ after 24 hours after i met DAVID!!!!
I met him on ”mate1” with the nick name ”caringdad75”
BEWARE
His ex-wife is a drug dealer and he said he bail her out once for 50K!!!! generous isn’t he?
Then, guess what happen:he had to go for a show in Nigeria!!! where guess what happen??:he got stuck at the border for that bloody 2200 dollars BTA!!!
He send me a copy after ‘his’ passport , but the picture is actually of a very young boy!!Also he send me a copy after the document which is proving that he needs those money for BTA!!!
Then he send a FAKE ticket , to prove me that he is coming to London to see me!!!
After I’ve told him that i discovered the fake , he kept bombarding me with love letters, and messages from ‘his son” who was CRYING and begging me to help him with money!!
However I did convinced him that I won’t going to do that ,so suddenly today he told me that he is coming tomorrow (after he sort his BTA problem) to see me and prove me that I was wrong, and that he is real!!!!
Now I am in trouble, coz I am so tempted to go and meet him and try to do something to be arrested, coz I am getting crazy here!!!
Need your advice, Sally, thou I think I already know what you will gonna tell me!
With great respect
September 7th, 2010 at 9:34 am
Hi Cleo
Sorry to take so long to answer you, I’ve been away for a few days.
My answer to your problem is YES definately go to meet him the moment he turns up in the UK ….. I say that because he is NEVER going to turn up here!!!
He is just trying to get you emotionally hooked again and guess what, it’s working … because a part of your mind actually thinks he may come here. He is a scammer, if you sent him £10,000 to travel with he still wouldn’t turn up. He has no interest in meeting you, you are just a business for him and he just wants money.
While you lie in bed and harbour thoughts of revenge you are still emotionally affected by him …. move on, forget you ever heard of this person, chalk it up to experience and don’t get fooled by anyone online again.
August 29th, 2010 at 12:43 am
Hi again
I forgot to mention that his email address is david_smith_trustworthy@yahoo.com, and he given me a phone number from Nigeria, which is :+2347033976569. Also he insisted ever so much to call his boss, who is in London, just to prove me that he is real. I did called that guy on 07024045992, and i spoken for 20 seconds with a man who was sleeping, and asked me to call him back next morning.I didn’t call him anymore.
But I am still very tempted , if he calls me to met me to go to see him, thou this sounds completely crazy and dangerous.
An other matter , he told me that this boss of him , called Edward, is living on Gurnards avenue, Milton Keynes.
Hope to hear from you soon.
September 7th, 2010 at 9:43 am
I nearly fell off my chair laughing when I read his email address Cleo … anyone that puts trustworthy in their email address might as well just put SCAMMER lololololol
Why do people fall for “call this number to check I am real”? If I was a scammer I could get you to phone my husband, brother, cousin, drug dealer to say I am “real”. I can also tell you their name is Elizabeth and live in Buckingham Palace .. it doesn’t make it real. Nothing is true until it is checked out and confirmed and that doesn’t mean ringing a number and another scammer telling you it’s real.
Never call an 0702 number, it is premium rate (47p a minute) and does NOT mean the person is in the UK. Scammers use these platform numbers because they look like mobile numbers and don’t require a country code, so they look like you are calling your own country. The person you called is probably the scammer himself or his friend and would probably have been in Nigeria.
September 6th, 2010 at 3:54 pm
Hi Jasmine & rosy
I am also currently in contact with the same description guy, his name Louis Kennedy. He said that he work in Marken PLC as supervisor.
I was also so shocked when I suddently go to google to check on his company and I saw this site on what you wrote, it is now happen to me, he even claim that this week he is in Malaysia to collect his late dad monies owed to his family and he will say to meet with me to discuss about our marriage,He did the same with u to me as well.
I was so stupid to trust what he said. But now after I read Jasmine and Rosy story. I believe him as a crooked. I wish there is no more the victim.
To all friend who read this comment… be carefull with this guy….
September 9th, 2010 at 9:41 pm
You all are very stupid, you think you are wise, fools i will get back to all of you one after the other……..
September 12th, 2010 at 12:06 pm
wow Naira!…that is the exact same move he did,hahahahaa….told me bout collecting his late dad’s money too….huahahahahahahaa….that person has not learned anything, not a very smart scammer,hahaa…
nice going Naira,…Good Luck on finding ur dream man…n BE CAUTIOUS,hehee
September 12th, 2010 at 1:49 pm
LOLOLOLOLOLOL….
LMAO…not on a chair though, dont wanna experience sally’s,hehee….
by the way, great knowing u Louis whatever…..
September 13th, 2010 at 1:27 am
I met a variation on the model named David, 35 years old from New Jersey, david_smith_trustworthy@yahoo.com, who had a 9 year old son.
My imaginary lover was named Jerry Lewis, and his SON was named David. His email is divineworkalways@yahoo.com, and he claimed to be a Construction Engineer, who graduated from Princeton, before getting his Masters in Barcelona. Jerry’s ex-wife was still a drug dealer (with the same story about bailing her out once for 50K) He lived near Union, NJ. His cell phone number also remained the same +2347033976569. Within 3 days of meeting, he was sent by his job over to Lagos in order to secure a contract for a Nigerian road that he had designed. I didn’t wait around for the financial request that was sure to follow. He did however, ask me to pick him up at the airport upon his return. It was petty but I had to talk to him on the phone once, so I allowed him to call me. To my surprise, he was very young sounding, with a strange accent and very poor English. Not quite the Jersey boy, with a Nanny and a Range Rover that I had heard from online. Certainly most difficult to explain was his possession of a Nigerian Cell phone the 1st day of his 1st trip to Lagos.
Jerry claimed to be the product of a French mother and a South American father. When pressed, he told me that they spoke latin in his home when he was growing up, “you know that language that they speak in Mexico” (which isn’t even South America – its Central — LOL).
Jerry appears to be a very fast thinker, however he didnt get the obvious reference to the comedian of the same name, AND he didn’t understand why I thought it strange that despite the fact that he was half-mexican, he only possessed one surname, and it was “Lewis.”
Post your address and name and I will forward the photos of Jerry and his son that were shared with me.
September 13th, 2010 at 1:35 am
Hi Cyndi
I would rather people don’t post their email addresses as we know scammers read this blog. If you use the Ask a Dating Question link at the top of this blog and just send a quick hello I will email you from my private account and you can forward the pics to me, which I can then pass on.
Nearly pee’d myself at the “spoke latin” comment .. not many families speak a dead language anymore!!
September 13th, 2010 at 1:36 am
One of the Nigerian’s Many Poems:
BIRD OF PEACE UPON MY WINDOW
I was walking home one day,
When I heard a beautiful song,
I stopped walking right away,
And I smiled like I hadn’t for so long.
Admiring your music,
I couldn’t keep on going,
Because I had that feeling,
That something good was coming.
And it did, I met you,
And I am so glad to know,
That no matter how hard the wind may blow,
I’ve found in you,
A bird of peace upon my window.
A song of joy, a voice of hope,
is what I enjoy in every note,
and as I hear the melodies you play,
I want to say,
Thank you for bringing back,
Some sunshine into my life
September 13th, 2010 at 1:38 am
Another of the Nigerian’s Poems:
I LOVE YOU
Once I had you,
So deep in my heart,
I felt we were twins,
For the first time in my life I shared my heart and thought with someone,
You are my friend, lover, soul mate, my diamond in my heart,
The one who opened my eyes to true love,
You are my world’s view.
I love you dear
September 13th, 2010 at 1:42 am
Another of the Nigerians Poems – I received two on this day!
YOUR THE REASON I SURVIVE
For the girl I miss so much
For the girl I long to touch
When we are together
My days cant get better
I think about you everyday
And I love you in every way
Every minute with you is so sweet
My life is now complete
Your love is what keeps me alive
You’re the reason I survive
September 13th, 2010 at 2:09 pm
Hi Cyndi
Thanks for sharing them. The trouble is you can now look at them with a cynical eye but when you first receive them they make your heart beat faster .. at last a romantic caring man!!! That’s the trouble with rose tinted glasses, you see what you want to see, not what is really there.
September 13th, 2010 at 2:11 pm
Cyndi was having a problem posting this one:
This is one of my first emails from “Jerry” my
“husband-to-be” … notice that he must be sending the same content
out multiple times with minor edits, as he calls his son “David” and
then “Tom” within the same note! Imagine my surprise when he told me
that he was a graduate of Princeton, with grammar like this, no way!
___________________________________________________________
Hello sweetheart…In my spare time I take David to the cinemas,well for my wife
its a sad story cos she was involved in drug trafficking and I believe in hard
work and don’t believe making through the back door,she was caught and I had to
pay $50k to get her bailed as if that was not enough she got her involved again
and she got incarcerated and when she was released I heard she went straight to
brazil for her shady dealings again,and the happy thing is that Tom lives with
me and am soooo happy about that enough of my ex,how was your night love?really
can’t wait to meet you in person and I don’t care about distance and I see in
you my future wife…
love is like an ocean
It goes down so deep
My love is like a rose
Whose beauty you want to keep.
My love is like a river
That will never end
My love is like a dove
With a beautiful message to send.
My love is like a song
That goes on and on forever
My love is like a prisoner
It’s to you that I surrender.
Take care and have a great day hun
Your Husband to be
Jerry.
September 13th, 2010 at 2:11 pm
and another:
LAST POEM THAT I AM SHARING FROM NIGERIAN … this one was just plain odd.
Overall its hard to imagine that I only knew him for a week, no?
____________________
She’d known him her entire life
She always dreamed to be his wife
Just his smile made her heart melt
But she never told him how she felt
Forever hoped to have him here
Always dreamed to hold him near
Time passed and they both did grow
But still she never let him know
Perfect chances passed her by
But she just couldn’t tell this guy
No matter what she’d ever do…
He still didn’t have a clue
But one day her whole world did end
When she heard news from a friend
About the wreck he’d gotten in…
She’d never see his smile again
Now at his grave she softly cries
The tears running from sad eyes
This hurting girl whose heart is broken
All because of love unspoken
September 13th, 2010 at 4:45 am
Naira… I’m glad you found out this website! otherwise you will end up like me, trust him (Harry Cannon) to be a good and sweet talk person to play our heart easily! GOD is great! before his next move, I had found out this website. SALLY did a good job by providing info to us! thanks Sally for a job well done! I owe you.. come to Singapore and be my guest…. I am happy to show you around. For those guy, who got cheated too.. why not we be friend and we shall share our experiences, I am awaiting for your email. To Cyndi: I would love to see “Jerry and his son photo, can share with me Sally?. To: Louis Kennedy, you can have us ON again, but you must also remember this verse ” once bitten, twice shy”… good luck to you Louis!
September 13th, 2010 at 2:06 pm
Hi Rosy
You are so very welcome, I’m just glad you found the information in time. I would love to come to Singapore again, I lived there as a small child, but I’ll have to wait until I find a better paying job lol.
March 2nd, 2011 at 7:57 am
I wanted to point out that a girl named Cylia Collins is a Nigerian scammers: females: white
March 15th, 2011 at 11:27 pm
That blows….I just want to find a woman that loves me who I am. Not how bulgy my wallet is hahaha
March 20th, 2011 at 11:51 am
Surely you will find one that really loves you, this is very important to us, we ooking for person who can share our laugh and tears together during our up and down day. I pray for your success Me.
April 3rd, 2011 at 7:59 am
please reply…
April 3rd, 2011 at 8:59 pm
Hi s
reply to what? I can’t see any comments or questions from you.
April 4th, 2011 at 1:12 am
Hello!
I started exchanging e-mails with a guy called Bright Angelo, who found me in Match.com, 10 days algo. I’m a bit surprised because he says he is in love… I decided to google for his email and found one very similar likend to scams: bright.enofe40@yahoo.co.uk
He hasn’t asked for $ so far, but he told me his ex cheated on hom with his best friend, and when he called me I realized his accent is not british at all. He says he is a greek sculptor who has an art gallery in Manchester… His daughter’s pics … well, he says she’s 10, but she looks younger on the pics… Maybe they are old?
His e-mails are long and romantics, but I’m very down to Earth…
Do you think it might be a scamer case?
==============
his last e-mail
Hello my lovely adorable (my name),
It was nice hearing your lovely voice, you indeed made my day hearing your voice yesterday, Sandra and I had a nice weekend, on Saturday I took Sandra to her piano class, we did some shopping and I also play volley ball with some customers before coming home, while today being Sunday we went to church and I pray to God to quid us though out this relationship, it will be nice for me to meet with you in Brighton.
Baby I am whole heated ready to bring you into my world, because you have become a part of me also a source of my joy and happiness now, it pains me so much that we still afar at the moment, but most especially I am so happy that destiny have successfully brought us together, and I believe that nothing can change that, because I know that you are my lost rib which I have looked for all these years, I am so happy I found you.
I just hope I am not dreaming and I pray that you should be the woman I have always pray to come my way to wipe off our tears and put a beautiful smile on our face.
Baby please I want you to take this very serious because I think I’m fall in love with you and I don’t play with my feeling hope you bear with me.
Baby, before I go let me leave you with this poem, I do hope you enjoy reading it, and I will try and compose more at my free time.
I wish I could wipe
your falling tears away,
as you bravely smile through your pain…
You see me suffer,
then you break down and cry
miles apart…
In your dreams
I softly kiss you,
no one can see the pain,
that we both feel inside
miles apart…
You whisper I love you
and I whisper to the skies,
I love you too
When will this pain ever go away
even though we are
miles apart…
To be by your side
is a dream I can’t deny
But I will wish for it to come true.
I miss you so badly
my heart is breaking
as we cry
miles apart…
My warm regards to your family and I do hope to be close to you in due course, hope to hear from you soon.
Good night and sweet dream.
Hug and kisses
Bright
April 4th, 2011 at 11:10 pm
Hi Pam
That email address has been used on a number of international money transfer scams (you know the emails you get saying pay £5,000 and unlock £50 million in probate funds) .. he’s obviously decided to try his hand at dating scams now.
Bright is actually a female christian name. He also appears to have changed his Surname from Enofe to Angelo (which used to be his middle name).
Look at the English he uses .. he goes from using grammatical terms like “while today being Sunday we” to “to quid us though out this”. This indicates someone not used to speaking in English but using copy and paste for sections of the email.
Block and delete … that’s my advise.
April 21st, 2011 at 11:14 am
Hey Pam and Sally,
I got a very similar letter the same day. And looks like he just change the order of the letter a bit and partial of the content is diferent. But I never gotten any mail after that. I also got pictures of him and his daughter. Maybe
you can keep quiet and see how far he can go and what he wants. By the way his profile says he is looking for man. So Sally might be right.
April 7th, 2011 at 7:13 pm
I think I am being scammed by someone right now. He fits the profile. He has stated that he lost his wife six years ago in a car accident will going to pick up their baby daughter at the babysitters. He has a sister that has been diagnosed with breast cancer and is now in the UK settling his fathers affairs. He has professed his love to me only after one week and talked about marriage. He contacted me this morning and said he was mugged and lost his wallet with credit cards and all his money he took out in the AM. He said he need $1750 to secure the property to sell it. LOL…I told him my daughter needed an operation and did not have the money. Also told him to contact the American Embassy and he came up with an excuse. He has contacted me once more but was very short. Help…what should I do now. Who do I contact?
April 7th, 2011 at 10:22 pm
Hi Being Scammed Now
As you haven’t sent any money the authorities will not be interested, as they can’t do anything because no laws have been broken. Best thing to do is just block him and publish his email address, phone number, etc on any scam sites you can find.
April 7th, 2011 at 10:28 pm
Thanks Sally. It just makes me so mad on how they plan on peoples emotions.
April 7th, 2011 at 10:36 pm
it is very frustrating and annoying how they treat people and it makes it harder for everyone else as we all stop trusting each othe.
Please publish his details so if anyone googles his email address they will find your comment.
May 3rd, 2011 at 10:59 am
Hi Sally,
I received the following email of this person called Johnson Calvert. His first introduction is already gave me a doubt, he even attached 8 photos of himself, his ex-wife and son!. I wonder if this is another scam work from smart person? really need your advise or any other member of this website that ever come across the same person here.
Thanks Sally.
May 3rd, 2011 at 11:01 am
Dear Sally,
My Apology, I forgot to paste his email earlier. See his email below:
Hi Dear,
Thanks for giving me your Email,I really appreciate that a lot.
I am Johnson from USA, but i residence in UK, My father is from USA. while my mother is from UK, I lost my late father when i was 18 years old, So my mother took me to her country, Just because my late father’s brother treated my mother badly, they plan to kill us just because of my late father’s property, I graduated from Bristol University, I had my masters before i lost my sweet beloved mother. I am an Engineer, I work under Road construction and building of bridges. My work lead me to travel to many countries for a contract. So my dear i am an international contractor.
Am a widowed So since past three years i have been in pains.All i need now is one that will make me happy and i will take care of her.
I want you to know that i did not come to play game, i only come to look for my soul mate. I want you to know that age does not matter, what matters is love and care that matters.My dear, i will like you to tell me more about you, also send me your pictures.
I attach my pictures to you.
Hoping to hear from you.
Lots of love.
Johnson,
Sally…let me know if you wanna see his photos.
cheers,
Rosy.
May 4th, 2011 at 6:02 pm
Hi Rosy
I don’t need to see the photos … the chances of the person who wrote that email graduating from Bristol University are zero … his English is terrible and his grammar is worse so there is no chance he obtained a degree from a British University.
He also begins your online chats with a heartwrenching sob story, just to set you up for the future need for a loan/financial assistance. He mentions his fathers property … how many scams have invloved needing money to unlock the mega riches in a dead fathers property or business??!!
It’s a scam Rosy, block and delete.
June 23rd, 2011 at 9:39 am
Dear Pam,
I am victim of Bright Angelo(Andrease) Enofe. I got same mail from him “Angelo Bright”
He is using as follows also.
transfer@rsbonlines.co.cctransfer@rsbonlines.co.cc
ROYAL BANK OF SCOTLAND (RBS)14 St Andrew Square, Edinburgh, United Kingdom.Dr. Robinson Williams,Director Of OperationsTel: (+44) 703-182-3248)(Foreign Remittance Department)@Royal Bank Of Scotland.
June 24th, 2011 at 7:37 am
Honey,
Baby each time I read your message it always make me full of so much excitement, I am so excited that we came to locate each other after a very long time in our life’s, Honey I sow your missed call on my phone, and I tried calling you back several times, but you could not pick up the phone, maybe you where sleeping when I called, I wanted to inform you that the Turkey art and craft exhibition date as been announced and will commence on 10Th of January 2011, as soon as I arrive Turkey after purchasing my goods I will fly back to UK, so when I am back we will make planes of coming to pay you visit visit during the period of my vacation by God grace, actually I don’t know yet when I will be back from Turkey, I will always keep you inform about my activities in Turkey.
I thought about telling you things about my history which I have never narrate to any woman before in my life but I just believed you are the right person to relate my personal history with, just for you to know more about my person and my family before we meet each others so you won’t find it difficult to understand my person, I have been taking my time composing the letter to your understanding please read carefully just for you my darling please keep to yourself alone, there are so much to write about myself but few has to be stated first, when we meet in person i will inform you more.
I was the first among 2 children of my parent, and my father is the only son of his father and use to help his father on the art design also help him to market the goods at a point when my father traveled for trade that was when he met my mother but due to his line of business he was unable to stay long with his first love and he already made love with her for the few time that was spent with her and she got pregnant at the first date. In early six month later my mother came over to Greece in search of my father, so after then they both went back to England for a brief introduction and came back with my mother to Greece .
9 months later she gave birth to her first child in Greece which was a male child and was named (Bright), so it was a successful married life for the both partner because having a male child was every man’s wish at that time, 8 years later my parent gave birth to a girl, but this time it was not an easy task anymore because the income was not forth coming anymore because my father was still living under the roof of his father so all the money was actually coming in from my grandfather all though my father was the marketer of his creative art design and was also a maker.
At a point my grandfather was tired of taking care of the entire family also he never liked my mother due to the fact that she was an English woman but since she gave birth to a male child he decided to let the feelings die inside him but when she finally put to bed to a girl the grudges develop and ask my father to please look for a place for himself and start up a new life because he was tired of responsibilities, then my father was really confuse because he never save for himself when working under his own father so he had misunderstanding with his father and left angrily to his own apartment with his family.
My father said it was hell raising us all and my mother left when she was unable to cope with the situation because she has always told my father that we should move together to England and get a better life but my father refused because he believed he can change things back there in his home country.
At the outset, after my mother has ran to England living the kids behind my father began to suffer from livercyrosis because he was an alcoholic and never wanted to call for his father financial assistant for us, the illness eat deep into his liver and his father spent a lot on biopsy and therapy trying to manage his life but it got to a time my grandfather gave up on him by saying he warn him about my mother because His alcohol intake increased due to the heartbreak he got from my mother which led to the vicious cycle of the disease.
I started taking care of my father all by myself and with the help of his life insurance but to all effort I watch the jewel I cherish so much die in my arms that is the day I will never forget in my life but before he died he proclaimed to me to go in search of my mother and never work as an Art maker due to the experience he had and he said I should give myself a better education so that I can raise my sibling.
I cried all through those years of struggling but later moved to my grandfather’s house and at that time I made through my way to England at the age of 17 in search of my mother and explain everything that happened, but at that time my mother was not even on the best side because she was married to someone else and things were a bit difficult but as a man I could stand it all. She still loves us very much but there was nothing she could do.
Furthermore, I decided to go for an asylum which got me a foster parents Mr. /Mrs. Ashley Giggs, who took me all the way through my education also I was working in a pizza hut during the weekend I work in McDonald for 2hours all my effort was to bring my sibling to England although she was doing well in Greece but I wanted her to have a bright future.
To God be the glory I succeeded bringing in my sister after i rounded up my university, and I was then earning monthly salary, and I made sure she went through her education, and I was not getting any younger so I decided to find someone for myself to be my wife and of course the mother of my kids, and I was attracted to my EX-wife.
At first she was very kind and loving but she later develop grudge to my beloved sister that she demand too much complaining that she is deem fit to start up on her own and to stop disturbing my peace with her, but I tried to make her understand that she have no other means because I was the one that represent her father and mother and she pretend to have heard and pleaded that she will not complain about it again At the outset, she got pregnant for me and things started going on smoothly and my sister was doing well in her education, at the long run my ex put to bed and was named Sandra and I was astonish with a lot of joy because I was a father after many years of suffering.
I find out things where not really doing well because I was really under going through a lot, I had to go back to university and study construction/consultant engineer which lasted for about 2years and gained my master degree, but my ex-wife was not in supportive of the course and always have problems in my home because she keep saying my sister are the problems we are having that now I have a family she should start up her life and back off, as a man I always try to make her and the baby happy though it was really difficult.
At the end she decided to divorce me but my friends and I pleaded and she decided to stay back, after some time my sister got a job in Ireland as a stockbroker and she moved there, after some time I rounded up my course and began to search for a job. It wasn’t really easy getting my kind of job that really suit my profession but was still working and earning monthly income, at a time I decided to embark on the business of selling Art design since I was use to the business before and I started traveling to France, Germany and Egypt to purchase art and craft design, this is my first time of going to Turkey to purchase design at first it was really difficult because I invested the little I saved on the business. My ex wife began to act funny because she saw things were going down.
On that faithful day I traveled out to buy some design for sale because I do not have a gallery of my own at that time, I was suppose to return in about 5days interval but the art makers where not having much to sell so I decided to come back home and make arrangement for another trip, to my greatest surprise I met my lovely ex-wife in my matrimonial bed with my bosom friend.
I wanted the world to immediately come to an end because I was suffering for her sake but still she went ahead sleeping around me.
So then I had no option by calling up the marriage and swear not to have anything to do with women again, and she sue me by saying she needed some part of my savings and the British high court instruct me to do as she has desire, and said she wanted to leave our 5years old daughter for me to take care of because I have a sister, so I gladly accept my daughter and start up from somewhere again and I sold all I had to cope.
After sometime I took Sandra to my sister in Ireland so that I can apply for jobs and work towards it, I had series of job opportunity I was not contented with the field activities but to God be the glory I was called for an interview in Imperial UK Building Services Company and I had excellent and they tested my field construction ability and I made it successfully, so I was offer a space in the company and I immediately asked my sister to bring down my daughter because I already found a good job, within a year I was promoted to field manager and I began to earn good income.
After few months later my sister felt sick, she was sick of kidney problem, and i have to traveled down to Ireland and bring her over to Manchester, for proper medication, so that i can be seeing her, so a day came and the doctor told me that she has to go for an operation, during the operation she lost her life, and i feel that the world is almost coming to an end, because i love her so much, and i have contributed so much for her life, well it was a painful experience. I still have to continue with life no matter what happen.
Due to the customers I was already making in terms of my art design purchase I decided to open a gallery after some time, and my daughter wanted someone to call mother and I was already feeling the impact of settling down with someone but not from England and I got the idea from my cousin that I can meet someone really special on the site because his friends got married and settle down with someone from the site and they both live happily in Australia at present and I was interested and he directed me on how to go about it but to my greatest surprise I have not spend up to one month I already found a woman who has the quality of a real woman which ended up to be YOU and I keep praying to God that you should love me with all your heart and do not have double mind for our relationship.
To this end, I do wish to formally inform you that I need to end my story right here and do believe to have informed you correctly.
Hug and million Kisses
Bright
July 1st, 2011 at 5:37 pm
Dear Anonymous,
I also sorry to see this poor guy really go that extend to write long letter to you. I guess he wants to win your sympathy before ask for your $$$$, hence be careful and take care.
Cheers
July 13th, 2011 at 1:11 am
I met Evans Clive from UK about four weeks ago on fusion101.com who already scammed me out of $200.00. I realised he was a scammer when the day before he was to come to the US to meet me, he emailed me and told me he was robbed on a business trip in Malaysia and wanted me to send $2000.00 to pay hotel. I told him I didnt have that kind money and would send him what I have. He then said his brother from UK will help him. Currently he said they seized his goods in Malaysia and he needs 17,000. I decided to get back at him for messing with my emotions. I made him send me the bank account to make the transfer and told him I will get money from retirement savings. Sent him to the bank and guess what? For the first time he called me with an African accent stating they said the money wasn’t there. I laughed so hard and told him that He had been played the same way he played with my emotions. I received so many love letters and pictures of this so called white man. He is even on facebook with the white guys picture. Beware ladies, its Evans Clive, evansclive@hotmail.com, evansclive@yahoo.com with an address of 72 Floathaven Close, London SE28 8SN. Phone 011447031837567. These scammers are heartless
July 27th, 2011 at 2:50 pm
Dear Sally,
It’s me again! sorry I need help whether this time is my luck is for real! I just get to know this man from dating site called Fan Box), his name is Adams John, he said he is from UK.
See his email to me ( I senses that something’s not right and my luck is that whenever I know man from dating site, it’s always their wife passed away with cancer! so COINCIDENCE!!!)
Below is what he wrote:
Hi my dearest. It is my great pleasure to say thanks for finding time to give your email and for written me a little on dating site,You are sincerity and honesty that is what i needed from my partner……… To be honest , i am grateful. . . ;;;;
Now, i wish to give you a brief biography about myself .
About me and my family :Actually, i am Engineer Adams John working with Shell Oil services currently on a contract which i started early last year. I’m the only son of my parents, My dad, though late now , was working with Shell Oil Serving Company as the Head of human resources . This is when i went to University and read engineer. My mum is still alive but heavy with years.
My size : I’m 6′ 2” in height and weigh 72kg in weight .
My hubbies : I love playing snooker , chess , lawn tennis and have much love for football games. I’m a Manchester fan.
My likes : I am a simple man in nature , very easy going person. I don’t love playing games when it comes to affair or relationship especially to somebody i so much desire and have much affection for,the first very moment i saw your profile i fall for you and will want this relationship to be a dream come true i am much happy with the effort both me/you are making to champion this relationship.
My dislike : I hate lies , deceit and non straightforwardness from somebody that i so much love.
My marital and love life : I was married before , but unfortunately lost my relationship with my ex wife in a cancer sickness on the 18th day of Nov. in the year 2007 . I got my over age mother whom i cherish so much, For my love life , i dream to have a lady who can shower much love on me , care for me and ready to be with me all the rest of my life. Divorce is not in my agenda. I will want to know you the more,everything about and your love life.
Have a nice time and keep fit as always.
With Love From
Adams.
Sally….. What do you think? I am puzzle and confuse, worst I’m scare that it is a scam again.
Thanks very much Sally!
July 27th, 2011 at 7:04 pm
Hi Rosy
Sorry but it’s another scammer. The name is wrong, the grammatical errors are obviously from a non English speaker and as you rightly say the “coincidences” are simply too amazing to be true.
There are other indicators this is a scam but I don’t want to point them all out. Run for the hills Rosy and cut off all contact, plus report his profile to the dating site.
July 28th, 2011 at 8:51 am
Dear Sally,
Thank you for the valuable advised. Really appreciated.I will report to Fan Box on this guy. I just don’t understand why this people are so free as to do this to innocent people who really look forward to have new partner. I sometimes felt very tired and scare to make friend from dating site website. Can you recommend me a good website with less problem like all this scammers? thanks
July 28th, 2011 at 11:17 am
Hi Anonymous
I am afraid I can’t recommend certain sites, it will depend on your country. My tips for finding a good site are:
1. Google dating website+”your country members only” (so for UK I would put dating website+”UK members only”). Then research by checking the basic search box to see if it allows you to search outside yur country .. if yes then move to the next. Check the smallprint (I know it’s boring but necessary) does it say the site stops ip addresses outside your country. Etc.
2. Search for sites via your interests.
3. Ask for recommendations from people in your country (go to forums in your language and ask if there are any reliable dating sites for your country).
4. Once you choose a site do not sign up immediately. Email the admin staff and ask a question (any question will do, for example can people outside your country join the site). Now wait to see if admin reply and how long it takes. If they don’t reply then they are not interested in security or their members, just getting the money in the bank, so avoid the site.
August 28th, 2011 at 6:45 pm
joe48051 on zoosk, roommate and many others claims to want a long term relationship, honest, caring blahblahblah…writes a couple of nice letters then starts with love and sex talk. His famous line is your pretty, I’d like to get to know you better. Long list of women….he will not love you but wants a roommate to help pay his bills. He sounds EXACTLY like your article above.