I am afraid I can’t recommend certain sites, it will depend on your country. My tips for finding a good site are:

1. Google dating website+”your country members only” (so for UK I would put dating website+”UK members only”). Then research by checking the basic search box to see if it allows you to search outside yur country .. if yes then move to the next. Check the smallprint (I know it’s boring but necessary) does it say the site stops ip addresses outside your country. Etc.

2. Search for sites via your interests.

3. Ask for recommendations from people in your country (go to forums in your language and ask if there are any reliable dating sites for your country).

4. Once you choose a site do not sign up immediately. Email the admin staff and ask a question (any question will do, for example can people outside your country join the site). Now wait to see if admin reply and how long it takes. If they don’t reply then they are not interested in security or their members, just getting the money in the bank, so avoid the site.

Dear Sally,

Thank you for the valuable advised. Really appreciated.I will report to Fan Box on this guy. I just don’t understand why this people are so free as to do this to innocent people who really look forward to have new partner. I sometimes felt very tired and scare to make friend from dating site website. Can you recommend me a good website with less problem like all this scammers? thanks

Sorry but it’s another scammer. The name is wrong, the grammatical errors are obviously from a non English speaker and as you rightly say the “coincidences” are simply too amazing to be true.

There are other indicators this is a scam but I don’t want to point them all out. Run for the hills Rosy and cut off all contact, plus report his profile to the dating site.

It’s me again! sorry I need help whether this time is my luck is for real! I just get to know this man from dating site called Fan Box), his name is Adams John, he said he is from UK.

See his email to me ( I senses that something’s not right and my luck is that whenever I know man from dating site, it’s always their wife passed away with cancer! so COINCIDENCE!!!)

Below is what he wrote:

Hi my dearest. It is my great pleasure to say thanks for finding time to give your email and for written me a little on dating site,You are sincerity and honesty that is what i needed from my partner……… To be honest , i am grateful. . . ;;;;

Now, i wish to give you a brief biography about myself .

About me and my family :Actually, i am Engineer Adams John working with Shell Oil services currently on a contract which i started early last year. I’m the only son of my parents, My dad, though late now , was working with Shell Oil Serving Company as the Head of human resources . This is when i went to University and read engineer. My mum is still alive but heavy with years.
My size : I’m 6′ 2” in height and weigh 72kg in weight .
My hubbies : I love playing snooker , chess , lawn tennis and have much love for football games. I’m a Manchester fan.

My likes : I am a simple man in nature , very easy going person. I don’t love playing games when it comes to affair or relationship especially to somebody i so much desire and have much affection for,the first very moment i saw your profile i fall for you and will want this relationship to be a dream come true i am much happy with the effort both me/you are making to champion this relationship.
My dislike : I hate lies , deceit and non straightforwardness from somebody that i so much love.
My marital and love life : I was married before , but unfortunately lost my relationship with my ex wife in a cancer sickness on the 18th day of Nov. in the year 2007 . I got my over age mother whom i cherish so much, For my love life , i dream to have a lady who can shower much love on me , care for me and ready to be with me all the rest of my life. Divorce is not in my agenda. I will want to know you the more,everything about and your love life.

Have a nice time and keep fit as always.
With Love From
Adams.

Sally….. What do you think? I am puzzle and confuse, worst I’m scare that it is a scam again.

Thanks very much Sally!

I also sorry to see this poor guy really go that extend to write long letter to you. I guess he wants to win your sympathy before ask for your $$$$, hence be careful and take care.

Cheers

I am so sorry you have been scammed. Indeed if he find he can get money from Asian women easily then of course he will keep going after them … so sad.

Honey,
Baby each time I read your message it always make me full of so much excitement, I am so excited that we came to locate each other after a very long time in our life’s, Honey I sow your missed call on my phone, and I tried calling you back several times, but you could not pick up the phone, maybe you where sleeping when I called, I wanted to inform you that the Turkey art and craft exhibition date as been announced and will commence on 10Th of January 2011, as soon as I arrive Turkey after purchasing my goods I will fly back to UK, so when I am back we will make planes of coming to pay you visit visit during the period of my vacation by God grace, actually I don’t know yet when I will be back from Turkey, I will always keep you inform about my activities in Turkey.

I thought about telling you things about my history which I have never narrate to any woman before in my life but I just believed you are the right person to relate my personal history with, just for you to know more about my person and my family before we meet each others so you won’t find it difficult to understand my person, I have been taking my time composing the letter to your understanding please read carefully just for you my darling please keep to yourself alone, there are so much to write about myself but few has to be stated first, when we meet in person i will inform you more.

I was the first among 2 children of my parent, and my father is the only son of his father and use to help his father on the art design also help him to market the goods at a point when my father traveled for trade that was when he met my mother but due to his line of business he was unable to stay long with his first love and he already made love with her for the few time that was spent with her and she got pregnant at the first date. In early six month later my mother came over to Greece in search of my father, so after then they both went back to England for a brief introduction and came back with my mother to Greece .

9 months later she gave birth to her first child in Greece which was a male child and was named (Bright), so it was a successful married life for the both partner because having a male child was every man’s wish at that time, 8 years later my parent gave birth to a girl, but this time it was not an easy task anymore because the income was not forth coming anymore because my father was still living under the roof of his father so all the money was actually coming in from my grandfather all though my father was the marketer of his creative art design and was also a maker.

At a point my grandfather was tired of taking care of the entire family also he never liked my mother due to the fact that she was an English woman but since she gave birth to a male child he decided to let the feelings die inside him but when she finally put to bed to a girl the grudges develop and ask my father to please look for a place for himself and start up a new life because he was tired of responsibilities, then my father was really confuse because he never save for himself when working under his own father so he had misunderstanding with his father and left angrily to his own apartment with his family.

My father said it was hell raising us all and my mother left when she was unable to cope with the situation because she has always told my father that we should move together to England and get a better life but my father refused because he believed he can change things back there in his home country.

At the outset, after my mother has ran to England living the kids behind my father began to suffer from livercyrosis because he was an alcoholic and never wanted to call for his father financial assistant for us, the illness eat deep into his liver and his father spent a lot on biopsy and therapy trying to manage his life but it got to a time my grandfather gave up on him by saying he warn him about my mother because His alcohol intake increased due to the heartbreak he got from my mother which led to the vicious cycle of the disease.

I started taking care of my father all by myself and with the help of his life insurance but to all effort I watch the jewel I cherish so much die in my arms that is the day I will never forget in my life but before he died he proclaimed to me to go in search of my mother and never work as an Art maker due to the experience he had and he said I should give myself a better education so that I can raise my sibling.

I cried all through those years of struggling but later moved to my grandfather’s house and at that time I made through my way to England at the age of 17 in search of my mother and explain everything that happened, but at that time my mother was not even on the best side because she was married to someone else and things were a bit difficult but as a man I could stand it all. She still loves us very much but there was nothing she could do.

Furthermore, I decided to go for an asylum which got me a foster parents Mr. /Mrs. Ashley Giggs, who took me all the way through my education also I was working in a pizza hut during the weekend I work in McDonald for 2hours all my effort was to bring my sibling to England although she was doing well in Greece but I wanted her to have a bright future.

To God be the glory I succeeded bringing in my sister after i rounded up my university, and I was then earning monthly salary, and I made sure she went through her education, and I was not getting any younger so I decided to find someone for myself to be my wife and of course the mother of my kids, and I was attracted to my EX-wife.

At first she was very kind and loving but she later develop grudge to my beloved sister that she demand too much complaining that she is deem fit to start up on her own and to stop disturbing my peace with her, but I tried to make her understand that she have no other means because I was the one that represent her father and mother and she pretend to have heard and pleaded that she will not complain about it again At the outset, she got pregnant for me and things started going on smoothly and my sister was doing well in her education, at the long run my ex put to bed and was named Sandra and I was astonish with a lot of joy because I was a father after many years of suffering.

I find out things where not really doing well because I was really under going through a lot, I had to go back to university and study construction/consultant engineer which lasted for about 2years and gained my master degree, but my ex-wife was not in supportive of the course and always have problems in my home because she keep saying my sister are the problems we are having that now I have a family she should start up her life and back off, as a man I always try to make her and the baby happy though it was really difficult.

At the end she decided to divorce me but my friends and I pleaded and she decided to stay back, after some time my sister got a job in Ireland as a stockbroker and she moved there, after some time I rounded up my course and began to search for a job. It wasn’t really easy getting my kind of job that really suit my profession but was still working and earning monthly income, at a time I decided to embark on the business of selling Art design since I was use to the business before and I started traveling to France, Germany and Egypt to purchase art and craft design, this is my first time of going to Turkey to purchase design at first it was really difficult because I invested the little I saved on the business. My ex wife began to act funny because she saw things were going down.

On that faithful day I traveled out to buy some design for sale because I do not have a gallery of my own at that time, I was suppose to return in about 5days interval but the art makers where not having much to sell so I decided to come back home and make arrangement for another trip, to my greatest surprise I met my lovely ex-wife in my matrimonial bed with my bosom friend.

I wanted the world to immediately come to an end because I was suffering for her sake but still she went ahead sleeping around me.

So then I had no option by calling up the marriage and swear not to have anything to do with women again, and she sue me by saying she needed some part of my savings and the British high court instruct me to do as she has desire, and said she wanted to leave our 5years old daughter for me to take care of because I have a sister, so I gladly accept my daughter and start up from somewhere again and I sold all I had to cope.

After sometime I took Sandra to my sister in Ireland so that I can apply for jobs and work towards it, I had series of job opportunity I was not contented with the field activities but to God be the glory I was called for an interview in Imperial UK Building Services Company and I had excellent and they tested my field construction ability and I made it successfully, so I was offer a space in the company and I immediately asked my sister to bring down my daughter because I already found a good job, within a year I was promoted to field manager and I began to earn good income.

After few months later my sister felt sick, she was sick of kidney problem, and i have to traveled down to Ireland and bring her over to Manchester, for proper medication, so that i can be seeing her, so a day came and the doctor told me that she has to go for an operation, during the operation she lost her life, and i feel that the world is almost coming to an end, because i love her so much, and i have contributed so much for her life, well it was a painful experience. I still have to continue with life no matter what happen.

Due to the customers I was already making in terms of my art design purchase I decided to open a gallery after some time, and my daughter wanted someone to call mother and I was already feeling the impact of settling down with someone but not from England and I got the idea from my cousin that I can meet someone really special on the site because his friends got married and settle down with someone from the site and they both live happily in Australia at present and I was interested and he directed me on how to go about it but to my greatest surprise I have not spend up to one month I already found a woman who has the quality of a real woman which ended up to be YOU and I keep praying to God that you should love me with all your heart and do not have double mind for our relationship.

To this end, I do wish to formally inform you that I need to end my story right here and do believe to have informed you correctly.

Hug and million Kisses

Bright