That is really sad and to be honest I have never met a total non-cuddler, although I’ve met some people who do it because they know yo0u want but they are not comfortable with it.

For me you have done the right thing, a relationship must be give and take and sometimes we need to go out of our comfort zone to keep our partners happy. You have tried communicating over a long period of time but to no avail. I really hope when you find your Mr Right that he never stops cuddling you.

What an amazing comment. Like many difficulties in life the most important step is recognising there is a problem. You seem to have the right idea, go back and start to romance each other again. I wish you the best of luck and I feel confident that with an attitude like yours the pair of you will soon be snuggaholics again.

Now, like I say, we never cuddle…. we never have those moments where stroke or gently touch or kiss each other just for the sake of being close. It makes me feel like the relationship is empty in a way, there’s no affection or spontaneous display of that affection. I can’t remember the last time we snuggled, or kissed. Recently I’ve been contemplating our relationship, and whether it is still on track. To be honest I think we derailed some time ago, and the only way to fix things is to go back, pick ourselves up and put ourselves back on track with making the time and the effort to share these little moments. It’s not easy when we have three children, but we must… otherwise the spark will never be reignited between us, and lets face it, without the feeling that we are loving and being loved, wanting each other and being wanted… well, one of us is bound to stay aren’t we. Marriage doesn’t just “work” automatically, it takes effort. It takes time. It takes cuddles.

Thanks for this. It’s made me realise where we lost our way, and I think I know what we need to do to make this work now…

Great point, being a team is certainly the way to build a strong relationship.