You make an excellent point … couples will watch a travel show in order to decide on the destination they wish to visit. So isn’t porn simply watching a destination you want to visit, ie the person in the porn movie?

At what point would porn become a problem in your relationship?

So has our “free” society become so prudish and full of double standards that making similar preparations for sex is that much different than going to a new restaurant, traveling, sky diving, strength training, etc?

So I say porn in a relationship would make the relationship stronger, not worse. At least it makes mine better.

Surely the question should then be why is our tv full of mini porn films?

Isn’t saying “if your partner enjoys porn and you think it is wrong then maybe you have some insecurity issues” just a step away from saying you must be insecure if you object to your partner having sex with the neghbours wife/husband?

But what happens when you introduce porn. You are effectively introducing a third, forth or more party to the proceedings. They are people you will naturally start to compare size, performance, attractiveness, etc to and that just isn’t healthy. I personally believe it’s a slippery slope best left out of a marriage … just grab the kama sutra and have some fun together.