The soldier in a war zone dating scam has been around for a few years now but it’s surprising how many people dating online remain unaware of it.
Nigerian and Russian scammers have long used the old “I’m a civil engineer working in Nigeria or Russia …. oops I’ve been robbed/got sick/got a great business deal and need a financial loan” trick to scam money out of trusting people they meet online.
The serviceman scam stoops to an even deeper low, playing on people’s patriotism, sympathies and trust.
When it began the soldier scam usually said they were a soldier (from US or UK) serving in Iraq but as public popularity for the Iraq war dwindled Afghanistan became the war zone of choice.
This is how the scam works:
After registering with an online dating site the scammer uploads a photo of a soldier they have downloaded from a facebook page or army recruiting website and then copies and pastes a great profile writeup from a script.
They immediately send a short but friendly message to numerous women on the site introducing themselves and asking about the woman.
You reply, saying a little about yourself and asking about him.
When they respond they will give very little away about themselves, again responding to what you have told them and asking questions about you. They will also give an email or msn address where you can contact them offsite.
NB … the more you tell a stranger about yourself, particularly personal stories, the closer you feel to them because there is a bond of trust … scammers use this against you and the more you tell the more trust you show.
In their second or third email they will tell you they are a US or UK soldier serving in Afghanistan or Iraq … they say they hope that doesn’t scare you … and they have one child they are totally devoted to.
The story then varies depending on which script the scammer is working from …. either they are a widower or divorced …. sometimes their ex/deceased wife was a Nigerian, if so the child may have gone to stay with his ex/deceased wife’s mother in Nigeria while he is away at war, or else the child is with his own mother in UK or US while they are in Afghanistan (this depends wether they have contacts in the UK or US to channel the money through).
After they feel they have your trust and you are emotionally hooked (usually after declarations of love or commitment to a long term relationship) they will start to mention how worried they are because they’ve heard their child is sick. This can either be a gradual process or they will receive a call with the heartbreaking news while they are talking to you online or by phone.
Then the first request to borrow money will arrive to pay for emergency medical care for their child … obviously they can’t send money from Afghanistan, it’s a war zone but will pay you back as soon as they get home.
If you send money the requests will keep coming as their imaginary child gets sicker and the medical bills mount up … oh and don’t forget his dear old mother who has to stay in a hotel next to the hospital.
This scam is quite successful because you have a patriotic soldier putting life and limb on the line each day. One who has gone through heartbreak and tough times emotionally (showing his vulnerable side) and of course one that is totally committed to loving and caring for you for the rest of your life … they are exactly what you have been looking for, a real life knight in shining armour.
A professional woman in the UK was scammed out of £10,000 by this very type of scam …. please don’t fall for it.
My apologies to the genuine US soldier in the photo used in this article, I simply copied it from google images to show how easy it is and I hope the soldier in the picture (and his family) would understand my intention is simply to keep women safe by explaining how the soldier scam works.
March 13th, 2011 at 10:36 pm
I had this same scam played on me. I even talked to th diplomat on the phone more than once. I did send a small amount of money also because I didn’t know any better at the time. Unfortunately for the “diplomat” he got stuck in Ghana and didn’t have enough money to get out of there and so of course needed money from me. You are so lucky yu found this site before you sent any money, because if you did, it would be one thing after another where he needed more money and more money. I knowf it hurts to know the truth after two months of what you think is getting to know this “soldier”, but you will get over it, believe me on this.
March 13th, 2011 at 10:50 pm
Hi Kathy
The URL you put in the comments, is it for an existing website because it si the second time I have had to remove it as a “not found” URL … am confused!!
March 14th, 2011 at 12:21 am
Hi Sally, I think I know what the problem is or was. When I first signed up on here it asked for website and I wasn’t sure what was meant by that. So I put down Stop the Army Scam which I am a member of and it is on Facebook. So I should have put down Facebook instead I guess and I have changed it to that now. Let me know if I did the right thing or I need to do something else. Kathy
March 14th, 2011 at 4:07 pm
Hi Kathy
Thanks for the reply … just leave URL blank, that will be fine. Thanks for your comments, the more information we can get out to victims the less money scammers will get out of people.
April 10th, 2011 at 7:53 pm
Kathy the same just happen to me. please tell me if there is anything I could do? please help me
April 10th, 2011 at 8:01 pm
What are you hoping to get help with Emma. Getting your money back, stopping him doing it to someone else, where to report him, etc?
April 11th, 2011 at 12:14 am
yes sally! i lost a lot of money. and of course i want these people to stop doing this to others. it involves 3 people. i believe this person sally. he was in the army, send me so many pictures of himself, his son, I have the phone nunber for the diplomat, even the adress for the caregiver for his son. is there any change of fidding these people? getting my money back? and how do I deal with my emotions?
thanks
April 12th, 2011 at 12:05 am
Hi Emma
Why do you believe he was in the army? And what diplomat?
I will email you directly and we’ll see if we can get to the bottom of this.
Have you reported this scam to your local or national police? It will depend how much money you have lost as to whether the police will take action, because it costs so much to investigate an international crime so for a couple of thousand they don’t bother.
There is very little chance of getting your money back I’m afraid, I would bet all the information he gave you is actually false but the police may be able to help you. They are the only way of getting anything back.
Dealing with your emotions takes time, there are so many to deal with. Victims often feel gullible, lonely, frustrated, angry and of course broken hearted. Boredom is your biggest enemy at the moment, where once you waited for emails and chats now they are gone and this leaves you feeling lonely. Try to keep busy and away fom your computer for some time. Hopefully when you answer my email and we find out all that we can about this scam (ie what is real and what is not) this will help you to understand you were not in love with a real person but with a fantasy your own mind created (don’t worry it happens to people all the time).
It can also help if you turn your pain into something positive, by using your free time to warn other women of the dangers of these scams, by posting on forums and websites.
May 12th, 2011 at 1:28 am
we have to stop these scumbaga i got taken for 1800 he wants more for the diplomat please send me your photos thanks
May 4th, 2011 at 10:07 pm
Hi Emma, I hope by this time that you are feeling better. I should have written to you before. I’m sorry for that. I didn’t lose a lot of money to my scammer, but more than I could afford, so I didn’t try to get the money back. But as far as emotionally, I hope I can help you in saying to not have anymore contact with this guy and time does heal. You will feel very bad and hurt and then it will turn to argue and then you will some day be able to let it go. You have to know that you are not the only one going thru this or have gone thru this awful feeling of loss and loneliness and feeling so betrayed. There are so so many of us that have been there, and done the same things you did, so try not to be too hard on yourself. I wish I could see the pics he sent to you. I had tons of pics too and they get them off the web in different places. In fact, my scammers pictures are still going around but by a different name now.
July 1st, 2011 at 9:57 am
Kathy hi,
I m in the same boat, send me your e mail please
thank you
July 1st, 2011 at 4:04 pm
Hi Sunny
If Kathy wants to share email addresses then I shall swap them for you but I don’t post peoples email address unless they are a scammer
March 14th, 2011 at 6:39 pm
@Kathy: after the Kate Roberts episode the fb group is locked down and will be for the forseeable future by all accounts (ie the group owners wishes). Anyone who uses your url and requests to join will be refused until that changes so perhaps not posting it for the time being may not be a bad idea.
March 15th, 2011 at 5:12 am
Cyndi or Jay:
What site are you using to check the email address? I have checked some, but all it tells me is it is a valid email, just curious how you found out that the email you were given was black-listed.
March 15th, 2011 at 11:01 pm
I didnt do a search, as soon as I read on the earlier post that their search came back saying 419 blacklisted thats all I need to know. 419 refers to the Nigerian criminal code for fraud hence the term 419 scams.
If someone out there has flagged that email address as being used in a 419 scam and it says 419 blacklist you dont get bigger alarm bells than that. It may be the person who posted the email address on the site that google finds saying its a 419 scam has traced emails back to Nigeria hence the original post.
March 16th, 2011 at 2:37 am
Yes Jay it is locked down because of the Kate Robert’s thing and also they have had to delete so many actual scammers that came on there to see what was going on. The administrators didn’t want to have to do that but for the time being it was necessary. It is a great website and sure helped me when I needed it most. But this is a great website also and basically the same information.
March 27th, 2011 at 5:07 am
I recently corresponded with a man I met on a online dating site and when I asked him to verify his photo due to the large number of scammers he got offended and no longer wanted to talk to me. Hmm, maybe he was a scammer to and didn’t like it because I was on to him. Are there any honest men on the dating sites? I am really beginning to wonder.
March 27th, 2011 at 6:06 pm
Hi Jem
Yes genuine men do exist on dating sites … but you need to pick your site carefully. Some are so flooded with scammers they are not worth joining.
My tip is to always stick with sites which only allow members from your own country. It’s not a guarantee but it keeps over 90% of scammers out.
April 11th, 2011 at 12:15 am
sally i picked a christian site! and don’t they have a record of the credit card used by the person?
April 12th, 2011 at 12:07 am
Hi Emma
If they were a paid member then the likelihood is they used a stolen credit card but the police could certainly get access to that credit card information.
March 27th, 2011 at 10:46 pm
Here are some more names to watch for: Richmond Barcinas, Michael Barcinas, Raymond Barcinas, Steven Barcinas. All of these profiles use pictures of the same soldier, just changing up the first name since his surname is on his uniform. His usual story is that he has 3 girls (his angels) and a son he adopted from Ghana when he was there “on mission”. With me it did take him several months to ask for anything and I actually initiated it by asking what he wanted for his birthday. But after that – wow he wanted the moon! lol Be careful, it is easy to get caught up with some of these guys, especially the ones that take this much time to establish a relationship.
March 27th, 2011 at 10:55 pm
Hi Pam thanks for the heads up … Barcinas is a name we’ve heard a lot about on this blog but good to see other first names he is using.
Could you possibly let us know the email addresses he has given you. Thanks
June 15th, 2011 at 1:25 am
I am really scared now. I am currently corresponding with a man who says he is in Afghanistan and will be retiring in 2 months. there is only one picture of him. he is widowed and his wife died giving childbirth.
the nly thing he has asked for is a carepackage for him and his men. He gave me an email called mail_carrier_4all@yahoo.com? is this legitamite?
June 21st, 2011 at 6:07 pm
Hi Donna
Simple answer, no it is not legitimate … sorry.
June 22nd, 2011 at 9:46 pm
I have been corresponding with a guy who claims to be in Afghanistan US Forces but so we can speak on the phone I have to write an e-mail giving the info he has given me, his rank and address of sorts in Afghanistan and state that I want to be able to speak to my boyfriend while he is deployed, do you know anything about this???
July 1st, 2011 at 4:45 pm
Hi Kim
It’s a scam. You send the information and then you get an official sounding email explaining you need to pay a conection charge. US soldiers can call anyone they like whenever they like, from pay phones, mobiles or their laptop using something like skype.
July 1st, 2011 at 7:13 pm
Kim, his name isnt Michael by any chance is it??? I got caught out on this one too but didnt pay any money, he was persistent. I then said ok I would do it and got an email about a UK security breach and to send the CASH (£225) to an ‘agent’ in Hungary who would sort out our connection!!! Yeah right – in his dreams!! He was very convincing tho
March 28th, 2011 at 1:15 am
The email addresses I have that are associated with Barcinas are: richmondbarcinas@yahoo.com, richmondbarcinas@hotmail.com, and barcly2@yahoo.com I also have a name and address for his “son”:
Richmond Adjanor (saw on another site he used Richard Adjanor)
PO Box AH-97
Achimota Accra, Ghana
phone – 233 268 461 391
2 additional telephone #’s – probably not in use anymore, but here goes:
233 247 825 072
233 240 861 884
I have reported all this on the IC3 website, but if you can do some good,glad to help. Not sure if they will be able to do anything, but if it can at least prevent someone else from getting scammed, I am happy to give the info.
March 28th, 2011 at 1:39 pm
Thanks Pam, that is just brilliant. Now anyone googling any piece of that information will hopefully find out they are communicating with a scammer.
April 3rd, 2011 at 2:02 am
I received an email from a supposed US soldier from what he claims to be his military email address of: USarmy_sgtgary@mail2Army.com
Is this another scam email address you think?
Thanks
April 3rd, 2011 at 8:48 pm
Hi Jane
Yes it’s a scam email address. If you look up @mail2Army.com you will see page after page of reported scammers using this email service. This is NOT a military email address.
April 11th, 2011 at 12:18 am
sally what about milleredwards2@yahoo.com.. is this familiar?
April 12th, 2011 at 12:11 am
the email address is not familiar but the name Miller-Edwards has been used in money order scams.
April 7th, 2011 at 8:15 am
Sally,
I traced the IP address and it came back as from Nigeria. So I played along with him and he claimed that his unit had been stuck out in the desert without ammo and they had to wait to be rescued. LOL He then proceeded to have his buddy and Capt Ramos come on the IM site to talk to to me about the “special phone”. The capt ramos claimed he talked to his “wife” everyday using this. Said I had to apply with the ATS dept and state why I wanted the phone. Said it costs 475 dollars. When I said I didn’t have that kind of money he proceeded to tell me his “girlfriend” paid twice! He couldn’t even keep it straight if she was his wife or girlfriend. So everyone avoid someone using the name of this poor soldier. They are using the name Sgt Gary Kaltwasser. I told my scammer I would have to think about it since it is alot of money, Of course he doesn’t have access to cash in Iraq. Sorry bud but I will be thinking about it for a long time!
April 7th, 2011 at 10:19 pm
Hi Jane
Well done … another scammer foiled for now.
April 17th, 2011 at 1:45 am
Sally,
I cannot get over how many scammers there are on the dating sites. I received an email from a man who claimed he had liked my profile on the large friends dating site and that he had grown tired of the site so he had closed his account right after emailing me. We talked two different times on yahoo instant message and he claimed to be Peter Robert, an engineer, working in Glasgow, Scotland. Said he had a ten year old daughter. He also emailed me 3 photos of himself. Today I received a wink/email from a different dating site (also run by large friends) claiming to be Conrad Gibson, an engineer also in Scotland with adult children. (Both claiming to be engineers in Scotland was my first warning) When I checked out his profile, turned out to be the same photos being sent by Peter Robert aka Conrad Gibson. I have reported him to the dating site but do not know if anything will be done. I have had several men contact me, all claiming to be engineers and most living in Scotland. It is amazing the things these people will do. You would have thought he would have been smart enough to not send to the same person using the same photos with a different name. Lol
April 19th, 2011 at 6:30 pm
Hi Jane
Scamming is VERY big business. Some women sell their homes and send all the money. Scammers often work in gangs, with the one at the top living in luxury we couldn’t afford in a zillion years.
Have a watch of this video and at the end look at the size of the mansion the head scammer was living in before his arrest. While this is possible scammers will not stop.
http://www.bbc.co.uk/crimewatch/solved/howtheycaught/ghana_datingscammers.shtml
Has the dating site removed his profile yet? If not go on every forum and blog you can find and name and shame the dating site, plus cancel yopur membership. It’s not until dating sites start losing custom and getting a bad rep that they will deal with reported scammers.
June 2nd, 2011 at 7:17 am
Hello Jane
I found the man named Conrad Gibson from match.com too. Could you please forward the e-mail from Conrad Gibson to me? I would like to make sure that we got same photos.
Here is my e-mail – *****@gmail.com
Thanks you very much
June 2nd, 2011 at 12:46 pm
Hi Phatra
For security I have taken your email address out. If Jane leaves a comment saying she is willing to email you then I shall send your email to her myself.
June 2nd, 2011 at 6:29 pm
Hi Sally
Thank you so much.
April 19th, 2011 at 11:13 am
@ Sally I have been sent a fake military Id by a lady that has been scammed by a fake us military soldier if you send me an email i will send you the link the moron had no clue how to spell his so called military title so what does that tell you also found a great blog called asoldierspointofview.com it gives detailed information about this scam and many scammers are not happy that they are being exposed but in any case please respond so that you can post this FAKE military Id I think it will help alot of others on your site.As we all know a real service members military Id Card cannot be duplicated.
April 21st, 2011 at 3:05 am
Raymond/Richmond/Michael/Steven Barcinas now has a new name on FB – Steven Ray Barci – LOL AND a new love that doesn’t care if he changes his name! OR uses her picture for his profile pic – it just gets better and better!! Be smart ladies!
April 21st, 2011 at 5:36 pm
Thanks for that Pam.
April 24th, 2011 at 3:36 pm
Hi sally,
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April 25th, 2011 at 10:32 pm
Hi Sadheart
Can you leave a comment with your email address and name so I can see which comment you are talking about … I will not publish them but I want to check it out so need these details.
April 24th, 2011 at 2:27 am
Hi ladies
I think I am talking with a scammer I have not sent money but he wants some his name is Sgt bill rancourt Johnson or Bill gibson He will not get far HAHA. Keep your eyes open I googled his name and a scam came up becareful ladies
May 6th, 2011 at 10:12 pm
Hi Mary – I had “Sgt Bill Rancourt Johnson” contact me through a dating website that i thought just involved English people. As soon as I “Googled” his name and found him on numerous scammers websites I cut all contact and haven’t heard from him since. I had a similar experience with a guy last year who got very nasty when I wouldn’t sent him $500 for a satellite phone so we could talk. These guys should be hunted down and prosecuted for using the details of what are extremely brave guys that are doing a great job. Don’t be taken in by “Bill” – he’ll get under your skin and that’s where the trouble starts.
Gillian
April 27th, 2011 at 5:29 pm
Hi Sally,
I recently sent you an email about a soldier scammer and dating sites. You reassured me that there are genuine men on some of the sites and you were right! I am now emailing a man from New York and after talking on webcam with him and googling his name I found that he is indeed who he claims to be. Wish me luck, he seems like a really nice guy but my guard will always be up.
Thank you for your great advice.
Jane
April 27th, 2011 at 11:01 pm
Hi Jane
Brilliant news and the best of luck to you both. Thanks for letting me know, it makes it all worth while.
May 2nd, 2011 at 3:07 pm
Hi Sally,
I have been talking to this soldier in Afghanistan who says he only lives and hour from my city. He has asked me for money and insisted that he will pay me back when his mission is over. Everytime we had a chance to chat, money ALWAYS came up. I haven’t sent him a penny because for 1 I don’t have extra money and 2, how do I know if he’s real or a scammer? He asked me to marry him and he even sent me a ring via purolator and told me it is a promise ring until he gets home. He claims to be canadian, divorced, 12 yr old son in boarding school that costs $1500 a month. He asked me to pay it and he’ll repay me when he gets home. I really need to know if he’s real or a scammer.
His name is Jeffery Draper, says he’s from Alban ONT, has a 12 yr old son named Mike Mcdonald (why the different last name).
When he asked for the $1500 for his sons schooling and me telling him I don’t have it he began to get pushy. When I asked him what he does with his money while at war he told me that him and a few others went into this business that has a pay out of 2.5 million dollars.
Please see what you can find out for me because now I’m nervous.
Thank you so much
May 4th, 2011 at 6:30 pm
Hi Bren
You are right to be nervous, this is a total scam. Ask him to email you from his military email account (for Canadians it should end with @forces.gc.ca)… I bet he finds a hundred excuses why he can’t and gets angry if you go on about it.
So this guy has no family, no friends and no family welfare unit in the army to help him … just little old you on the internet who can help him. Sound real? No, it doesn’t to me either.
A payout of 2.5 million wow … it’s just another form of the 419 scam (the one where you just have to send £3,000 to unlock an inheritence of 5 million) .. a request for a relatively small amount of money on the promise of a huge payout, it’s all just psychology.
ANY soldier who asks you for money on the internet is a scammer, pure and simple. Ask for the military email (if he sends anything it will be something bogus like us.army@yahoo.com) just to put your mind at rest … then ….
Block and delete.
May 9th, 2011 at 3:12 pm
Anyone here had any dealings with a man named John S. Copeland, supposedly lives in Massuchusetts. Born in Portugal? Suspicious. Also have heard from a gentleman named James Duncan Washington. He claims to be working in Iraq. The stories these scammers come up with amaze me.
June 30th, 2011 at 3:00 pm
can you tell me more about this john S. Copeland
i think i have similar experience
thank you
July 1st, 2011 at 4:32 pm
John Simon Copeland.48 has a son named Steve. Claims to be a widower currently working in England on a construction deal of. Some kind. Also claims a worker was killed on the job. John is using photos of a dark haired man.
Jane
May 14th, 2011 at 1:06 am
This is the first time I have heard about this scam and I have to say it really gets to me how awful it is. I have a boyfriend who is currently serving in Iraq and to know that there are people using pictures and names of real men who are working hard over there in order to scam people out of money makes me sick. My heart goes out to any of the women who have had this happen to them and I will be sure to let all of the single women I know about this scam. Thank you for making people aware of it.
May 19th, 2011 at 1:15 am
OMG, why didn’t I find this page a week ago. I met a major-general Bill Miller (Millar), American serving in Iraq, 3weeks ago. Wife and daughter died 4years ago. Surviving son, Roy, lives in NY. Roy even started emailing because he knew how in love and happy his dad was meeting me. Then a desperate email from Roy, needing money coz he couldn’t tell him dad what he had done. Even gave me a phone number and I spoke to the buy. Bill has sent me lots of photos – him in uniform, with his car, etc. Then Bill left the base in iraq and went to london on business on his way to see me. He also ended up needing money…which i sent. Even photos of the kids. He is supposed to be flying here to meet me on Sat morning. Guess I needn’t go to the airport huh? We spent hours on skype, messenger, and the phone each day. Is he a known one. It feel ins awful to have been so stupid – even worse to have your heart broken!
June 2nd, 2011 at 4:08 am
I believe we were talking to the same person! Same name same story do you have any photos that we might be able to match up… i am so upset…
May 19th, 2011 at 1:17 am
Even while I am writing this he has phoned….I think I’m about to be asked for more money lol!
May 28th, 2011 at 2:23 am
Hi all,
My name is Diana and I too have been the victim of a scammer. He claims to be a US solider stationed in Iraq. He is using the name SSG David Morgan. His email address is, dvdmorgan1944@gmail.com, the yahoo instant messenger account he used is dvdmorgan1944@yahoo.com. I do have photos that he sent and I’d be happy to share them…I just don’t know if that is possible on this site.
Fortunately, I became suspicious early on, so by the time he started asking for things (laptops etc) and money I knew I was on the wrong end of a bad deal.
I reported him immediately to Match.com. But after several weeks I noticed that he was still on the site using a different user name (brilliantmarv) and a new location (Los Angeles). I reported him a second time and again, his profile remained active on Match.com. Recently I checked again and they seem to have deactivated his account. But I still cancelled my membership. I told them that I was not only disillusioned with dating in general but with Match.com specifically, because it took them so long to act on my reports. How many other women were scammed during those weeks?
I want to be clear that I do not blame SSG David Morgan, whomever he is. He is as much a victim of this as I am. Having said that, following is the first email “David” ever sent me. I think it has a lot of information that would help others recognise a similar type of scam.
Hello Diana,
I hope your day went well.. just thinking of what to tell you and I hope this will tell you a little more about me’…I hope you’ll tell me some more in your next mail. But I prefer to chat on IM.
I really like everything I read in your profile and my gut instincts tells me you are a good woman. But here we are with you in MA and me, far away in the middle east on Peace keeping with the army(defense intelligence)…Too bad isn’t it? Well as long as we have life, we can still have time for ourselves in the near future, what matters is life, right? I do understand the distance thing; I just truly believe that there are no boundaries as you seek your life companion…How do I set the ball rolling?
My name is David Morgan and with one kid adopted …was married before but lost my wife…5’7 feet tall and average. I was born on 28th August, 1963 at Baptist Hospital of Miami………I started A &A Children Academy at 6 and later on continued from Calvary Baptist Church Schools, I joined the Military academy at the age of 16. I was in the boarding school so my parents visit me once in a while. I didn’t spend much time at home.
My mom was a head teacher and dad was in the medical field of the army and later worked with the UN. I am now an E-6 Staff Sergeant (SSG) and now working with the UN. I also act as a platoon sergeant in the absence of the Sergeant First Class. I am the leader of my squad. I am a noncommissioned officer and I work in the junior management of the military.
Talking about who I am; am that easy going type, adventurous, romantic, ambitious and have a very good sense of humor. My hobbies are too many but to mentioned a few; sports, watching movies, going for walks, listening to music (almost all types of music), love on the beach, dancing in the dark etc..
My favorite movies are romantic movies, adventure films, war films and comedy movies eating habits: just about anything. Am always smiling and don’t easily get irritated, I don’t even remember the last time I frowned, am that type of person who always try to make people laugh. I always make sure to share the little that I have with someone and also satisfied with whatever I have….
As you already know, I am currently stationed in Baghdad (Victoria Camp), the capital of Iraq . I have to let you know that I am on my second mission in Iraq and I have already spent 4 yrs and am left with 1 month to retire and be home. My first mission to Iraq was in 2004. My mission ended in 2006. When back to the States, some few months after, my wife died of cancer. I was with her for 14 years. I am now looking for the one whisk to my heart….in which I will then say a woman that can put her past behind move on with me to the next level, talking about my family, i have none. All i have now is my adopted son. I adopted him when he was 10 years .I lost my family during the world trade Centre tourist attack…. so i want to start a new beginning with a woman i will one day find….. I believe either of us had in mind of meeting someone special online but it has just come to pass with our personality description towards learning few things about each other. I’m ready to falling in love with someone special whoever that happens to be.. there are few qualities which talks about genuine woman in relationship, such as faithfulness, loyalty, trustworthy, Honesty, respectful etc.
I guess having those qualities in relationship can really help allot. I am not looking to fill a void in my life, I am looking for my soul mate. I consider myself a very easy going person, even tempered.
I love to cook and a perfect evening would be to decide on a wonderful menu and cook together while enjoying a fine glass of red wine and great music. I enjoy many type of music from easy listening jazz to classical to country western especially Ian Tyson. I love to have adventures, large or small, and am looking for someone to share them with.
I look into the future with hope and would like to create a relationship based on respect, understanding, trust and love. Seeking a relationship with longevity and not just something will end in just a blink of an eye. I have a great sense of humor and can dish it out to make a sad day enjoyable.
My cologne I wear is Armani,Prada,Gucci and CK. I like those smells. As far as clothes, I wear casual clothing like nice shirts, pants with a nice polo, nautical or Tommy shirt and also i like wearing suits. I do like wearing jeans as well and I love to dress up for occasions. Okay that brings me to my next subject. I am very honest,caring,open,romantic,dependable,soft touched and respectful to my partner. As far as what I am looking for here is well, in any relationship I feel becoming a best friend is best start of a good relationship. To become a husband and lover to a woman should be second. This getting married should come when both people are comfortable with each other and know them pretty well and have accepted them for who they are. But to be a lover and husband there also has to be a spark between them. The spark is sharing that part in a relationship for intimacy. It’s special and both husband and wife need to have that between them.
There should be a want and desire to make each other happy. I want to be able to treat her like a queen and share and laugh do all the home duties together. I want her to take on her own identity. If she wants to work then I would support her in what ever she want to do if only she need my help or whatever she decides she wanted to do then I would support that. I do not want someone who thinks they have this chain and ball around their ankle.
Honestly I’ve all that it takes to be a man, I don’t really need anything from my partner. maybe in terms of circumstances there might some kind of help from each other, helping to make things right. It’s not all that easy meeting that rightful woman with all those qualities which I’m dreaming off. I am a very sincere person who laughs easily, loves to tease and be teased and who communicates openly and honestly. I pride myself in being independent both emotionally and financially. I have reached the point where I am looking for someone who is open to a new friendship and maybe even a committed relationship. I love life and would like to live it to the fullest, but its not all that easy without someone to share those life experiences with. I think two heads are better than one.
I will be home on retirement in 8 weeks and that is one main reason why i joined the dating website even though it’s not safe out here to be using the internet and everything i still had a thought about dating since for a long time now i never went on a date and am about to go on retirement and want to have that special woman in my life so that when i come back on retirement i can be with till the end of the world.
I never knew how to do this online chat and it was my son who thought me how to chat online and to send emails but unfortunately i can’t always be sending emails because most of my time i talk to my son online.
I speak the truth and believe in brutal honesty! Perfect relationship it’s hard to find. But yet I realized there is no perfect relationship. I am looking for a serious relationship in the near future. I would like to know the person I want to be with. Good relationship starts with good friendship. Building a friendship with someone is the good start to know the person. I’m hoping for someone who really cares about me. And will love me the way I am. I am not “Perfect” but I do know how to respect other people. And someday I will be happy with someone who cares, someone who will always be there for me. i will like to know you…Hope you are fine and doing okay. I will be much glad if you reply me back and also can i have some pictures of you…?
…Talk soon…attached a photo
would love to hear your voice but it’s rather unfortunate we have a communication break down and hope you can bear with me for some time…Looking forward to hearing from you soon..
Yours Friend
Have a nice evening!
David
June 12th, 2011 at 12:32 am
Sounds like good old George Lucas again. He is impersonating General Wesley Clark look him up in Wikipedia or Flicker
June 28th, 2011 at 10:36 am
All the message people are putting here are given upcoming scammers more ideas on how to improve their way of communicating with their scam victims.This site is helping others at the same time is a learning field for scammers.
July 1st, 2011 at 4:12 pm
Hi Anonymous
There is of course truth in what you say, such information does help scammers but victims have to be warned and have to learn what to look out for. It’s a catch 22 I’m afraid.
July 8th, 2011 at 4:50 pm
Hello Diana 28.05.11
I am so glad i found this site, your scammer and mine are the same, though mine was COLONEL FRANK ROBERTS with British Army Frankroberts@live.com or bnfrankj@live.com, peace keeping in Afganitan.. I read your mail and mine was exactly the same.
I wonder if the pictures are the same… i was reeled in for 8 weeks until he told me his diamonds had gone missing in accra… i realised then that this was a scam and have been looking since April for someone else who had been scammed by the same group of scammers..
If you want to chat please do… some of the script has been altered but a lot of the content of your scammers email is word for word..
I reported to match.com and was informed that he had been removed, this was in 7th March, i wanted to know why I hadnt been informed that he was a scammer… had no conclusive reply.. i reported all to police lets hope something can be done
regards
wendy
June 4th, 2011 at 2:34 pm
Hi Ladies,
I cannot speak for other countries’ militaries, but I was in the US Army and spent time in Afghanistan so I can tell you straight up that pretty much any “solider” that is asking for money or luxury items is at either a scammer or a complete pig. Don’t waste your time.
First off, before a service member is sent overseas, a “family care plan” must be established that details how his/her children will be looked after during a deployment. No family care plan? You ain’t going to war. Also – if family emergencies arise (death, serious illness, loss of primary caregiver) the military will send the servicemember home on paid leave, pay all transportation costs, and give him/her time to take care of the situation. Healthcare for servicemembers and their dependants (childrean) is 100% paid for so anyone asking for healthcare costs is a scammer.
Second, the military is very proud of being able to “take care of their own.” We have organizations such as Army Emergency Relief and Military OneSource that have been set up specifically to address the needs of soldiers who encounter difficult situations. Do they work perfectly? No. But they work well enough to not have servicemembers need to beg for money off people from dating websites.
Third, the standard format for an army email address will be firstname.lastname@us.army.mil Almost all american miliatry emails will end in a “.mil”
Fourth, US military bases overseas are very well eqquiped with phones, internet, video chat ect… There is no need for “special phones” since you can either get a local cellphone or use the AT&T call centers to call back home at a reasonable rate. When I was deployed I called my parents every day.
Fifth, you might not make the best pay in the Army but you are still bringing in a lot more than the average person. All money earned by a US soldier in a war zone is tax-free, you also receive hazard pay and separation pay if you have kids back home. So when you go overseas your financial situation (especially if you are single) actually improves. Unless a soldier has made some terrible life choices (at which point why would you want to date him?) HE WILL NOT NEED YOUR MONEY!!!
These scams are terribly insulting to those of us who have served in uniform. We are a proud lot and I could never see any man I have served with ask somone, let alone a stranger from the internet, for money. Not going to happen. If it is a real soldier and he is trying to get material things out of you HE IS A BAD PERSON!!! RUN AWAY!!!
If you want to do something nice for your online sweatheart overseas, send a care package with homemade baked goods and local treats from where you live. Stuff like that would be more than appreciated by any real man who is interested in a relationship. The address he gives you, if serving outside of the US, is formatted based on his military assignment and will look something like this:
Rank, Full Name
Assigned Military Unit
APO, AE #####
An example would be Private Joe Snuffy serving in the infantry in Afghanistan:
PVT Joe Snuffy
3rd PLT 314 INF CO
APO AE 09355
Sorry if I blasted you folks with too much information. I just really, really hope none of you fall victim to another scam.
June 4th, 2011 at 5:54 pm
Hi ArmyGirl
Thank you so much for taking the time to give so much information.
May I add that the British military work in a similar fashion, no soldier needs to pay for themselves to get back home, they cannot retire from the military while in a war zone and you can’t apply for leave while in a war zone.
Beware of similar looking US military emails, as scammers try to convince you they are real … recent attmept have been email address like richard.us.army.mil@usa.com this is NOT a US military email address.
June 16th, 2011 at 12:49 pm
Hi army girl, how the U.S. army can stop this scam i hope they could do something about it,i nearly fall in this scam luckyly i did not give some money but i gave my deatils my address my full name and my lisence to this so called millitary. and i think one of you girl we are talking to the same person his name is dannysimmon’s1960@yahoo.com and yes he said his got a son 12 yrs old and live in california and he is in afhganistan in IRAQ,and he said his friend coming to my place to bring a package his name is GRANT HOUGTON. danny told me he is a diplomat and he will come and visit me because the scamer danny want him to bring some package,and got stock somewhere in ghana but i had this feeling isn’t right so i did not send a money and i know after that story i got scared and deleted him in my YM and i change my YM EMAIL PLS HELP WHAT I ‘M GOING TO DO TO MY IDENTITY i’am so scared ihave kid’s
June 22nd, 2011 at 10:01 pm
I have been so stupid having read this. I completed an email with my name, address and telephone numbers so I could have a ‘special line; so we could talk on the phone, company called militaryphonnet@washington.usa.com – I had to complete everything to get cleared by US security!!! Michael Landon comes from New York ring any bells with anyone US Forces looking for a soul mate so he can retire from Afghanistan supposedly bought a house in Cornwall – I have been asked to pay £225 registration fee for free calls. Said I wouldnt pay it and was told I was jeopardising security at their camp! PLEASE CAN SOMEONE HELP ME?????
June 22nd, 2011 at 10:07 pm
PS on a peace keeping mission!!
July 1st, 2011 at 4:47 pm
Hi ANON
Sorry for the late reply … it’s a total scam.
US soldiers DO NOT have to get people to pay so they can talk on the phone, they simply use a payphone, mobile or computer to make phone calls.
July 2nd, 2011 at 4:32 pm
Thanks for making this all clear, really appreciate this
June 12th, 2011 at 1:16 pm
Just wondering if anyone has come across a John Raymond, soldier supposedly in Iraq.
I haven’t been asked outright for money yet, very close, and it seems really strange to me that some one there would need my money.
I’m playing the”game” at the moment because I am switched on enough – not to fall for it.
I’d really appreciate it if anyone is able to confirm this really is a scam. If you need more information or pictures, please feel free to contact me.
June 12th, 2011 at 6:49 pm
If he is hinting for money he is a scammer.
June 15th, 2011 at 1:41 pm
hi girls i think we talking the same person here but he using danny simmon and yes he is a SGT in IRAQ i’am jut very lucky i did not give him money because i had this feeling that is not right. one person send an me amil saying he is a diplomat and name is grant houghton he need’s a money because danny send me something and he needs to come to my plsce,my big mistke is he know’s my address and my lisence i photocopy it and send it to him but anyway i can change that,girls its very upseting but we have to very careful and that is a lesson to all of us.we just looking for someone care about us and so many scamer waiting for us to bite he he he
June 26th, 2011 at 5:43 am
Hi I’ve been tallinn to a to some one from afghanistan. His name he claims is roland smith .he said that he wants me to take care of his daughter and his mom. Tilll he get out in november.and he too asked me for money.and told me he loves me and wants to marry me
He really made me fall in love with him .I just hope that.he’s not one of these men that scam ppl puts me.and how did he find me .when I never singed up for any thing
July 1st, 2011 at 4:28 pm
Hi Yvonne
Definately a scammer I’m afraid. No real soldier would ask you for money and the story of “I’m getting out in November” is a favourite with scammers.
July 5th, 2011 at 6:26 am
hey, i’ve been contacted by a Brian Raymond, here is his myspace link if you want to check if it’s the same guy http://www.myspace.com/559095631
July 18th, 2011 at 11:27 am
Hi I talk to john raymond everydamn day twice a day i need you to contact me please asap please my email is *********@hotmail.com
July 18th, 2011 at 5:13 pm
Hi Jewel
I don’t usually allow email addresses to be displayed publicly because scammers also read this blog. Have left yours for obvious reasons but if you ever want it deleted just let me know.
July 20th, 2011 at 8:22 am
Hi Sally yes please delete my email address Thankyou..
I was just talking to John a few days ago but somehow i don’t know if he’s the same John Raymond as Aussie Girls John she talks about, I would love to know alot more about what she has to say about her John Raymond just to see if it is the same guy at all.
July 18th, 2011 at 11:36 am
Please contact me urgently in regards to Sgt John Raymond as i talk to him twice a day and have done for 12months now and i have just sent him some more money please can you contact me asap i need to talk to you ladies who have had contact with him.
July 20th, 2011 at 8:27 am
Hi Aussie Girl can you possibly send mr some pics of your John Raymond i really need to see if it is the same guy. I have many pics of my John theres one in paticular maybe if you have it its him coming out of the ocean with board shorts on no shirt his head looking down is this one of the pics you have by any chance? And another one of him a side profile of him in a black hawk.Plus i have some of him and his sister and his mum and dad..
September 8th, 2011 at 9:08 pm
I too have been talking with a Sgt. John Raymond, stationed at Camp Victory Baghdad. He sent me three photos; two of which are the same as the two you mentioned (board shorts walking out of the ocean and blackhawk). The other is a picture of him swinging a bat. He has not asked for any money but is planning to come for a visit in two weeks. I just think the similarities are more than just a coincidence. I would be interested in comparing photos and notes. Please respond! I have fallen hard for this guy! He has said all of the right things and sucked me in big time!
June 13th, 2011 at 2:00 am
Thanks Sally
We’ve just had a conversation about him coming to visit, but becuase he is a soldier and taking all the risks, in coming to see me, he thinks I should pay (NO WAY IS THAT HAPPENING).
When I told him I was uncomfortable with that and there were other options, he wasn’t really interested in discussing them. I eventaully put to him to meet him some where like Hawaii, and we both get ourselves there – he doesn’t seem interested in that either, as I’ve explained I can’t get time off work for a few months.
He’s now pushing that I either want to start a realtionship with him or I don’t. I’ve got to the point where he’s lost all credibility anyway and I haven’t deleted him yet as I simply wantedto see how far he would go before he gives up.
Is there a SCAMMERS code – do they just keep on at you until you go – I’d like to wear him down till he just gives up. I don’t make myself very available for chats now.
Its a shame the lengths some people will go to, and using some one else’s picture (who is probably a decent man). I wish something could be done to protect these real soldiers.
June 21st, 2011 at 6:13 pm
Hi Aussiegirl
Oh they will just keep going, they are like the Duracell bunny lol.
They will usually get angry if you refuse to pay. This makes women who are emotionally involved worry about losing him and pay up.
While he thinks there’s money to be had he will just hang on in there.
June 15th, 2011 at 1:22 am
hello
first I want to say
that my englisch is not so good
I’m so glad I’ve found this site
I’m from the Netherlands (europe)
I too almost fell victim to scams
also by a soldier from afghanistan
he ask me for pay money for his request
now
I got him immediately
(now I see this page )
removed from my msm
and blocked
so you see
these scammers are active worldwide
I can give you his name and email if you want
let me now
and i send it
I want to say
that I have a great respect for the army
and finds it really sad
that its abuse by some people
I would like to say to
army girl
fortunately there are a lot of good soldiers
so
may God bless you
June 15th, 2011 at 1:27 am
mail_carrier_4all@yahoo.com was an email I was given to get a care package sent to someoneon?? Is this legitamite?
Donna
June 20th, 2011 at 5:47 pm
leavegrant4soldiers@america@yahoo.com sent money gram to steven jennings add oyo state, country nigeria also paul jennings
June 21st, 2011 at 5:53 pm
Hi Molly
The military do not require loved ones to apply for leave for a soldier. Soldiers can only apply themselves and NOT from a war zone. There is no financial charge for a leave application and that email address is as bogus as they come.
A real US army email address would end @us.army.mil and they do NOT use yahoo accounts.
Sorry but you have been scammed.
June 22nd, 2011 at 10:46 pm
how can you check an e-mail address to see if has been involved in a scam?
July 1st, 2011 at 4:50 pm
just stick it in a search engine with the word scam. Not very reliable I’m afraid but it might come up.
July 1st, 2011 at 7:51 pm
SALLY LOVE YOU GOOD JOB , HOPE YOU PUBLISH IT !!!A LAW NEEDED TO PUT THESES DATTING SITE ON TOP OF ALL THIS I HAVE LET SEVERAL SITES KNOW THEY STILL DIDNT PULL HIM OFF THERE MONEY MORE IMPORTANT , THAN THESES LADYS AND MEN, BEING USED,WE HAVE TO GET A LAW IN PLACE TO PROTECT FROM THIS ABUSE GO TO FACE BOOK LOOK UP RAMOS KELVIN SGT 14 OR MORE ALIAS HE SPLASED ALL OVER SAME FACES EYE WARE DIFFERENT ALIAS RAMOS CHAVEZ, ALL KINDS RAMOS MILITARY WOW! WHAT A SHOCK HES ALL OVER, LADIES ITS JUST THE TIP OF THE ICE BERG THERE A RING OF PEOPLE INVOLVED , COME ON GOV, CANT GET HIM WHO IN HELL BEHIND ALL THIS,WE NEED TO BAND TOGETHER BEFORE , THE NEXT VICTIMS YOUR DAUGHTERS , OH GET THIS THE NIGERIANS NOT ALL THAT ARE INVOLVED CELEBRATE THE RIPPING OFF AMERCAINS YES A CELEBRATION DAY LOF RIPPING OFF THESES PROPLE RUN BUSSNESS OF COMPUTERS CREW SET UP TO USE US TO FEED THER, DISGUSTING NEEDS.MY PERSONAL OPINION WELL IT BE PUBLISHED HOPE SO MY IMPACT TO !!!TO SAVE YOU THE DISGUSTING FEELIN OF BEING VIOLATED !UNCLE SAM WE NEED HIS HELP TOO! OUR MEN THAT FIGHT OUR WARS HAVE GONE THREW A LOT THEY DESERVE THE RESPECT OF THE U,S,A, WAKE UP BEFORE ITS TO LATE
June 21st, 2011 at 7:21 pm
thank you so much sally reality check, time to seek help for others so they dont get scamed
June 25th, 2011 at 4:55 pm
I am so happy I found this site. Luckily I didn’t send money. I have tried to google his name but I found nothing. I know his name will pop out as he just joined facebook.
July 1st, 2011 at 6:02 pm
Thats the funny thing they all newly join t sites, even yahoo , they all have new profiles…alarms bells ought to be ringing when we chat to anyone with new profiles. Thoko whats the name of the guy you been chatting to from facebook?
June 26th, 2011 at 8:37 pm
Hi Sally.
Unsure whether this has already been posted. I have been contacted for the last month by a SSGT Andrew Nolan, currently deployed in Afghanistan. I realised it was a total scam when the leave form I was sent to apply for his leave unto retirement arrived – totally bogus.
I have six photos but have no idea how to submit them. I’m based in the UK, extremely saddened and sickened, but wish to prevent further women establishing a connection with this scammer. Feeling very sorry for the real SSGT Nolan and would like to make contact with him to advise of the identity theft.
July 1st, 2011 at 4:23 pm
Hi Jo
I don’t have a section we can post photos in yet sorry but if you google internet love scams or dating scam forums you will find a couple of good forums to post the details and photos in.
June 29th, 2011 at 6:58 pm
Hello ladies, I have to admit to being gulible too but fortunately have not handed over any money. The man in talking to is Greg Livingstone. He claims to be in afgan and want me to email someone to try to get him leave. He has not asked for any money yet but i feel he will soon. He claims his mum and dad were both killed on 9/11 and doesnt talk to his three brothers. Before i was talkingt o Greg i used to chat to someone named Lisbon Helms., he was another american serving in Afgan, he needed money to pay for leave to come see mehe was blocked and deleted. How do we stop this?
July 1st, 2011 at 4:09 pm
Hi Nicki
I wish there was a way to stop it but the nature of the internet is that as fast as we can catch them and have them removed they can simply create a new fake account.
July 1st, 2011 at 4:35 pm
I have several photos of the man claiming to be John Copeland.
July 1st, 2011 at 4:55 pm
The email address i was given to email his commander to try to get his leave sorted out on compassionate grounds is a scam..I typed it into google and got so many scams come up from it. I feel like Miss Marple
July 1st, 2011 at 6:04 pm
In the last few months i have chatted to four guys all seem to have similar scams to the ones im reading about on here….can we name and shame them all??
July 1st, 2011 at 8:20 pm
Indeed you can name and shame on here Nicki if you’re sure they are a scammer
July 1st, 2011 at 6:43 pm
Thanks Sally.
I’ve found other websites who have duly posted the photos as requested.
I’ve also told the scammer NEVER to contact me again as the authorities have been alerted. Seems to have worked!
By a million to 1 fluke, I also found the real soldier and contacted authorities to alert him of his stolen identity.
This has resulted in a great sense of closure for me and I’m now totally clued up on the signs of a scammer.
July 1st, 2011 at 11:51 pm
I have been still talking to him this time im messing with his head. Because he was asking me to order him a credit card so he can wire me some money.so that i can send it to his mom..but he said that it can’t be in. his name it has to be in mine…. So I told him if it can’t be in his then I just can’t do …..kept.on.going.back.and.forth for about a week telling me that his boss told him that he can’t put in his so then I said that ok then we . Will put it in both of r names just to see what he was going to say…….and he said that it can’t be in both of ours but I can use his last name as my last name…, so to make a long story short.if they.ask u for a credit.card don’t do it..
And yes im going keep on messing with head just like he did to.me im the type that if you like to play mind games with me .
Then I could too .
July 2nd, 2011 at 12:52 am
Hi,
Has anybody heard of SMsgt Bryan Jordan or SMsgt Bryan Dale Jordan as a scammer in Afghan uses the email addresses of sfc_bj00010@yahoo.com smsgt_bj6019@yahoo.com been in contact 2 months now he has rang me one supposedly from a secure line. He hasnt asked for anything as yet other than he wants to move over here (UK) and spend his life with me. divorced, 2 kids. has sent me 16 photos of himself half a dozen with his kids and him in,
July 3rd, 2011 at 12:46 am
Hi Dianne
He’s a scammer I’m afraid. Was reported here …
http://militarygear.com/asp/2010/07/28/the-wall-of-shame/555faa71-9003-e525-37025352646a88c8/
also uses photos with kids in.
As you can see he is busy scamming quite a few people.
August 3rd, 2011 at 11:11 pm
I have just been scammed by Capt,Hector Jordan from afghanistan.I wonder if would be the same person,different name.He told me he has two kids and his wife died 5 years ago.I have sent money and then he asked for more,I have been so stupid.My heart has been broken by this guy as I really fell for him
July 3rd, 2011 at 6:10 am
Sally hi,
I m still talking with him — i need documents-evidences to report him.
I have to absolutely Stop this person — He is dangerous
July 4th, 2011 at 4:19 pm
Sunny the best way to get him is to agree to send more money (which of course you will not do) but insist it goes o a bank account not a wire transfer. He will probably give you another victims account details (he’ll tell her it’s his pay cheque or something) but the police can then trace the accounts and where payments are going to. This is where the police can help victims, it may not get your money back but I certainly wouldn’t want to be in a Nigerian prison for 19 years
July 5th, 2011 at 1:46 am
Hi Sally,
This is the web link ‘Bryan’ asked me to use to organise his flight home to ‘us’ http://www.mac-loganconsultants.net/ every heard of the outfit before?
Dianne
July 5th, 2011 at 7:30 pm
HI Dianne
No that’s a new one on me, I shall check it out. Thanks for the tip.
If you google the sentence “is an independent management consultancy specialising in all aspects of market research, feasibility studies and in the development of marketing strategies and plans.” from their website you will see it comes up for a real company called Ballentyne Mackay.
I have informed them their business information is being cloned.
July 6th, 2011 at 5:09 pm
Great, at least I was of some help there. Sally are there any real legit Military dating sites or forums/places to write to some military guys out there? Sometimes I feel just a friendly letter gives them something to look forward to and will they give their military email addr to send to?
Also has Jason Jordan – the real one – been notified his ID has been compromised?
Bryan tried to give me his APO address – under duress as:
Bryan JordanCamp Phoenix – Kabul, Afganistan APO AE 09320
Thanks
Dianne
July 6th, 2011 at 6:11 pm
Hi Dianne
The internet is simply a mine field, where there is a website there are scammers, it’s just a case of learning to spot them. To be honest any large dating or friendship website will have it’s share of scammers, as they tend not to write I am a scammer on their application to join.
If I wanted to contact UK military personnel I would start by contacting SAAFA and asking how you could send letters to service people. If sent through military channels you can be sure it’s not a scammer that replies (bear in mind it has been over a decade since I served in the military so this service may not still be in use?!).
An APO is not exactly difficult to look up on the internet
July 5th, 2011 at 1:44 am
Hi Sunny,
are you chatting with Bryan Jordan also?
Dianne
July 5th, 2011 at 6:19 am
Hi there,
Have been reading through everyone’s emails and it makes me so bloody angry how horrible people can be. I got on to this site as I had someone contact me through myspace, same junk, wants to know me, 2nd email, loves me blah blah blah, he is in the army, wants to talk to me on the phone, now I have read this, I now understand the whole phone thing and how they make money from it. Didn’t fall for it but joining this site to post his email address for anyone to find if checking him out, it’s sgt.brianraymond@yahoo.com. Now, it there any place to upload his photo’s so people can know who it is if he changes his name or email?
July 6th, 2011 at 2:30 am
Ok. Now I do feel sick! I have been talking/chatting online for almost two months with someone who claims they are a US Soldier currently deployed in Afghanistan. We seemed to click right off the bat. He said he had a 5 year old daughter (Tracey) who was living with his grandmother while he was deployed as his wife passed in a car accident three years ago. He asked for $500 to send to his Aunt since her daughter was sick. I sent the money—dumb me! Then about a week or so later he said that she passed away and wanted me to send $5,000. I didn’t send it…however I tried to send a smaller amount via wire transfer and it wouldn’t go through. Western Union customer relations called me and asked me a bunch of questions and then said they were not processing it due to it possibly being fraud!! I told him about it and he was upset…he said it was because of all the trouble it caused me. But now the contact is not as frequent…even though before it was daily and he said he wanted to marry me and he loves me. I even sent him a care package–which has been returned!! Ugh!! Have you heard anything about a Nathan Hudson or Nathan Holder (email)… spacenathan63@ymail.com??
I’m so heartbroken!
July 6th, 2011 at 4:32 pm
Hi Carrie
So sorry to hear you fell for a scammer (because he is a scammer) but thank the Lord Western Union seem to be taking this seriously now and doing something about it, it saved you 5,000.
If you google “Nathan Hudson”+scam or “Nathan Hudson”+conman you will find page after page about this name being used in scams. Of course that doesn’t mean every Nathan Husdon in the world is a con man, scammers just clone identities and if it still works they will keep using it.
Why has he given you two different names? Didn’t this make you suspicious?
July 6th, 2011 at 8:45 pm
Hi Sally,
Thank for that, lol, yes your right they dont actually state they are a scammer. My ex hubby is a Marine (not that we talk much) he has some friends out there, just set me thinking, I shall make some enquiries. Learnt some good lessons thru this, thankfully before I could have been suckered in. Think I will become a pen-pal and concentrate myself in other areas. Im more savay now and it has also taught my daughters something too. So glad I found your site.
July 6th, 2011 at 9:27 pm
Hi Sally.
I was contacted by the real soldier and he is now conducting an investigation into his cloned ID. Hopefully he’ll be able to use his ‘military clout’ to do something about these scammers.
July 10th, 2011 at 5:10 pm
Hi Jo,
How can you be sure it was the real soldier who contact you? ‘Bryan Jordan’ rang me twice. btw he also asked for photo of me in lingering so he could ‘visualise’ me … sick sick sick.
July 10th, 2011 at 6:22 pm
Hi Dianne.
By fluke, I was researching an army day when I recognised one of the speakers from the newsletter as the soldier’s photos I had in my possession. I contacted him at his correct US army email and had this verified. It wasn’t via phone – I have no contact whatsoever with the original scammer
The real soldier is now aware and the military will be conducting their own investigation. This was done with some assistance from the US embassy in London.
July 13th, 2011 at 1:14 pm
Hi Jo,
Thats great, well done, you must be pleased with the outcome
at least some closure for you and for us out here that the real Solider and his officials now know.
Dianne
July 19th, 2011 at 7:40 pm
Hi Jo,
The soldier you contacted was he the real Jason Jordan the one on the Goodfellows site? or is he known by another real first name? intregued. Could you email me the article you found him on when researching to me email pixie-princess@hotmail.co.uk Ive been contacted by someone who purports to be the ‘real’ Jason and im kinda not wanting to be suckered into a conversation with yet another scammer using his ID. There was a lady called Sarah who also seems to think she has been in contact with the ‘real’ Jason. Is the Goodfellows site real or a clone? Would appreciate your help.
Thnaks Dianne
July 7th, 2011 at 11:24 am
A friend has been speaking to a Sergeant Major James Wiseman- claimed he wanted to set up a special phone, costing $400. He is on scamwarners.com- nasty piece of work.
July 9th, 2011 at 12:48 am
I WANT RETRIBUTION…..COLONEL FRANK ROBERTS.BRITISH ARMY.FRANKROBERT@LIVE.COM OR BNFRANKJ@LIVE.COM.IF YOU ARE A COLONEL IN TH BRITISH ARMY WHY WOULD YOU WANT ME TO MOVE YOUR DIAMONDS FROM ACCRA AIRPORT..WHY WOULD A COLONEL IN BRITISH ARMY DO THIS OR ASK FOR HELP FROM SOMEONE HE DIDNT EVEN KNOW…GOODNIGHT YOU VERY VERY NASTY (YOUR NOT EVEN WORTH THAT!!!
July 10th, 2011 at 5:08 pm
Hi Wendy, the guy/s you were speaking/emailing with, will not be the soldier you see in the photos. The real guy will have had his ID stolen. It is part of a big scamming ring. This is also happening to men too. My best friend had to speak with her brother as he was all for marrying a women he met thru the net, fell in love etc etc and he was just about to part with his cash. My pal checked this ‘woman’ out and it was a scammer. They are stealing ordinary people ID aswell as soldiers, unfortunately for the victim of ID theft and us innocent women.
July 10th, 2011 at 6:36 pm
Dianne,
Thanks I know it is just frustrating when we cant lash out, they are save and secure obscured by the internet and technology..
I feel finally I found a site in the uk.. I fell upon it by accident.
Everyone I know thinks I have 2 head, lol.. they dont understand the dispair that we all feel. but I am getting there.. lost lots of weight and look 20 years younger.
regard
Wendy
July 12th, 2011 at 3:39 am
Hi,
I’ve been a victim, as well. I was promised everything under the sun as soon as he gets home. I fell in love with this guy, and I was very happy. The request for money suddenly began. of course, I didn’t realize I was a victim until I started doing research. I met this guy on facebook. He claims his name is Gabriel Lindell and the email address is gabriellindell234@yahoo.com. Does this sound familiar to anyone?
July 12th, 2011 at 9:48 pm
sgt.**********@us.army.mil
is this a real military email address?
July 13th, 2011 at 12:51 pm
Hi Dianne
Yes that is a real email address and can’t be faked, as far as I am aware. I removed his name because it is a real address.
July 13th, 2011 at 1:15 pm
Thanks Sally for confirming this
July 13th, 2011 at 2:49 pm
You are welcome, good luck.
Still keep your guard up for a while Dianne, email addresses can be hacked but you should know quite quickly if it has been.
July 13th, 2011 at 11:00 pm
Hi Sally,
A lady got in touch with me thru another site, she was in contact with ‘Bryan Jordan’ too but he was using the shootingstar email address but along with a dozen photos that I hadnt seen before he sent a copy of his USAF fake passport and another picture him holding up a sign with her name on it. Unfortunately she had parted with some cash, but at the botton of the email passport pic he sent was the email address I sent onto you. I have tried to send an email to this email addr but it bouced back, im not entirely sure that it was not him that typed it at the bottom of the email to look legite. If you have an email address I can forward onto you what he sent if this helps in anyway.
This has been a hugh learning curve for sure. Im just glad I came across yours and the other site before I ended up parting with money thru lack of knowledge. A close friend of mine’s brother got caught by a ‘female’ scammer only 2 weeks back and nearly parted with cash to his new fiance, but my friend was much more switched on and had found her brother ‘fiance’ on a scammers site too. What is this world coming to. Thanks
July 14th, 2011 at 8:32 pm
Hi Dianne
Have emailed you directly.
July 15th, 2011 at 7:24 pm
Hi Ladies,
be aware of a guy whos called Sebastian O’Connor. An Air Force soldier in Afghanistan. I met him on connectingsingles.com. We had 4 weeks of chatting. He wanted to quitt as soon as possible and wanted to come directly from Kabul to Dortmund (Germany).
Well, I know the possible flights to Dortmund and sure there is NO direct one from Kabul.
It was fun chatting with him, I improved my English, and played the same game. I was suspicious right away. And men who are telling me after only 2 emails they want to marry me are not that type of guys I am looking for. But as I said: playing the game was fun:-)
But I do understand women why they fallen in love with written words. The scammers are really good with talking about feelings. And I think there are a lot of women who want to hear/read all that stuff. But there were so many things that hadn’t match in his information he gave me. After he asked for $1800 to come to meet me in Germany, I told him, I would never give a stranger who I never met or talked to, money. He should call me and tell me his flight details. He was getting upset: “spoiling our happiness because of just $1800″. JUST $1800??? A lot of money…. He told me some days before he earns $8K a month. And than he has not $1800??? Who believes that?? He was getting really upset, and I delete his messages, his yahoo name etc.
Fortunately I am always sceptic about men in the internet. Even if this guy really looked awesome;-)
I hope women will get more sensible about scammers.
July 17th, 2011 at 11:00 am
Hi Sanni
Well done for not falling for it. The “I want to quit as soon as possible is used in almost all soldier scams, that builds the “I want to come home to you” story … honestly if these guys turned their psychology talents to good not evil they would do the world a real favour.
July 19th, 2011 at 12:38 am
Sally,
I was contacted by a James(jakki)Malvin supposedly using a friend commander’s dating site access. He has been ‘talking’ (really good)for the last few days with conversations of Love very early. He claims to have a young daughter (mom abandoned) living with friends in Africa as he has no family now. He supposed to be from N Y. I started quizzing him from beginning… he was pretty good, but I picked up on a foreign mannerism pretty early. I asked him about it after he called from a number(African accent) that is a Ghana mobile number(i checked)…so sad, I am not giving anyone anything, money or whatever…but it is something that I have never experienced before. Oh he is on peace keeping mission in Iraq. Has beautiful pictures of self and little girl…I hope the real party in photos is ok. His email & chat is james_jakki@yahoo.com , I decided to send this after finding your format. I suspect he is scammer too. I told him and he was upset. Still contacting me claiming to care. I wish to remain anonymous but just FYI if anyone see’s this name and email. Also sent an email address for the little daughter. It does somewhat sadden me. What a waste!
July 18th, 2011 at 7:50 am
Hi Sally,
here is the email and chat name which the scammer used:
sebascon67@yahoo.com