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Arrogance is one of my pet hates, it is also a very unattractive quality in a date. There is a big difference between being confident and self assured and simply being arrogant and rude.

Talking down to a waiter or shop assistant doesn’t make you look confident and wealthy, it makes you look like the bad mannered peasant that you are. The message this sends to your date is that you are a demanding egotist and in a long term relationship he/she would be the one being spoken down to.

The fact that you could speak to or treat another human being that way is not a good signal to send but sometimes nerves and a desire to impress get the better of us. If you find yourself being rude to someone on a date simply apologise, in front of your date, and say that you are nervous because you are on a new date. Try to make a joke of it but be sincere in your apology. Yes you will feel and perhaps look a little silly but silliness we can forgive, arrogance and rudeness we can’t.

Years ago I was on a date with a wealthy entrepreneur and desperate to impress him (well I was fickle in those days) and while in a shop I was blatantly rude to the shop assistant. We then went on for lunch but the rudeness was simply not in my character and I felt dreadful. After lunch I asked if we could return to the shop and in front of my date I made a sincere apology to the lady and explained that nerves had made me act out of character. When we left the shop my date took my hand and thanked me, he said “I had decided not to ask to see you again because of your rudeness but your honesty, embarrassment and courage in apologising has changed my mind”. We dated for some time, were very happy and I never felt inclined to try to impress through rudeness again.

I have found that some men will be quite pleasant to a waitress, while clicking their fingers and talking down to a waiter. For some strange reason they think I will find this attractive, that the alpha male role playing is some sort of mating ritual.

Perhaps these men think they are demonstrating that they can get what they want in this life? To me what they are demonstrating is that they are a plonker with bad manners that has zero chance of a second date.

Quite frankly I would rather go on a second date with someone that picked their nose throughout our first date than go on a second date with someone that was rude to others.

If the cutlery is dirty or the food not properly cooked smile at the waiter and ask him to replace it, it will leave a much better impression on your date.

Grown women that think they are little princesses need to be put to sleep, no really it is the kind thing to do because they must be suffering terribly …. from lack of brain function probably.

On a date they complain about everything, they speak rudely to taxi drivers, waitresses and the guy selling popcorn in the cinema. They are attempting to demonstrate their superiority and ‘high breeding’ … cough, cough.

Unless you have the initials HRH in front of your name then you are NOT, I repeat you are NOT a princess. What you are is a spoilt little bitch that thinks stamping her feet and having a temper tantrum will get her what she wants.

Your date will see a huge neon flashing sign over your head that says demanding, high maintenance and hard work. Men love women that pout sexily or huffily in jest but when done in seriousness they find it laughable and petulant.

If you want a second date with someone then smile, be nice to people that serve you and show them that you are a pleasant person to be around.