Only you can tell what is going on. It sounds as though the boundary between friendship and relationship has been crossed, which often happens in FWB situatiuons. You need to think back to when the line was crossed and whether it was a mutual effort, one sided or if you just drifted into it. Are you happy to be in a relationship with this person?

Don’t feel bad I had a similar guy… only I called him out on it… if some guy tells you he “loves” you!!! that ids the first biggest flag ! as much as we may want it… no one can love anyone until you have met face to face… and red flag # 2 “send me money” !!! I’m glad you didn’t buit I’m sorry you had to go thu that.. he is scum and not worthy of a fine person like you keep going girl the right one will find you… be perticular and be sceptical until they prove to you they are genuine… make em come visit your State! good luck. The Bird

i’ve been FWB for about a year now with a good friend of mine.. although now i’m confused.. it used to be just hooking up (we’ve never had sex coz we both think thats more than mucking around) but now when we meet up its like a propper date.. we go out just the 2 of us go to the cinema go for a walk by the river or even go to a restaurant (he pays) cant anyone tell me what is going on here?? coz im clueless

So sorry to hear about your emotional rollercoaster ride recently. Once caught out scammers will always try the “but I love you, you broke my heart” blah blah blah rubbish to try to reel you back in and sometimes it does work. I get emails from people who KNOW they are dealing with a scammer but reach out to me in the desperate hope I will say they are not a scammer.

It’s such a shame he caught you at a vulnerable time in your life, confidence wise but at least the damage was only emotional and broken hearts do heal in time.

Anyone can get duped that easily, many say they can’t but I assure you they can when dealing with a professional con artist. This is what you have to remember, you were not dealing with a some poor kid on a 20 year old computer in a mud hut but with a professional scam artist, probably belonging to a scam ring of like minded thieves and conmen. The professionals are slick, clever and good at what they do. How else could they be everything you have ever wanted in a man … but also be everything someone else wanted in a woman or man.

Don’t beat yourself up, just google love scams or romance scams and see how many intelligent professional people get duped by these swines. Time to learn lessons and move on.

Big hugs.

We all need a moaning time sometimes and you’re more than welcome to moan to me.

I’m afraid most abusers work the same wayusing moments of utter kindness and love to make us think they are a nice person and we must be doing something wrong.

Learning to trust again is a slow process and has more to do with our own confidence than the actions of others. We can only e victims if we allow ourselves to be and once we truely understand that and refuse to be a victim anymore we can get on with life …. with confidence.

I’m so sorry to hear about your experience and saddened that you have given up on men .. for the time being. There are plenty of good men out there looking for a nice woman to pamper but sometimes we do pick the duds.

The good news is now you are no longer trying to find a man you will probably find that a nice guy comes looking for you. Someone that is happy being single is often far more attractive than someone desperate to be in love.

Unfortunately people who have crisis after crisis are often simply looking for sympathy and attention. Of course we all have a run of bad luck sometimes but I’m sure we’ve all met someone who tells stories just to be the centre of attention and these people are best avoided.

Is this your scammer? http://www.romancescam.com/forum/viewtopic.php?f=3&t=19104&p=131234

It is unlikely he will do anything, basically you have rumbled him so he will move on to the next potential victim and not give you a second thought.

Very well done on the weight loss and please don’t give up on online dating, just choose your site carefully, spend time communicating through the site before you move to personal email address or phone and investigate anyone you talk to so you know who they are before you get too involved.

Don’t feel humiliated, these people know what they are doing … they do it for a living. Learn from the experience and use it to detect warning signs in the future.