Comments on: Can we learn anything from arranged marriages?

By: India Property

India Property — Fri, 07 Jan 2011 09:57:03 +0000

Arrange marriage was the traditional method which most of us were following, but now a days many matrimonial,shaadi, online dating sites have came into existence. Online internet technology has came into existence replacing to traditional method of marriage.Mildred, in my view your thoughts are absolutely correct for the individual himself/ herself is responsible for their successful married life.

By: Manoj | Marriage in India

Manoj | Marriage in India — Tue, 07 Dec 2010 10:21:53 +0000

I completely agree with Mildred for taking 100% responsibility of our life. Marriage is something which can be done once in lifetime, so it is necessary that we should take a strong decision before getting into such commitment.Thanks author for sharing such good post.

By: John@Dating Advice

John@Dating Advice — Wed, 18 Aug 2010 07:25:53 +0000

In the Old China,like Qing Danasty,all of the people must accept the arranged marriages.The bride and groom usually have the same background.Sometimes their parents know each other well.At that time,most of the arranged marriages have a good result,wives love the husband very much,and rarely divorce.Then yes,there is something we can learn from arranged marriage.

By: john@Learn Russian Online

john@Learn Russian Online — Thu, 25 Mar 2010 13:03:05 +0000

I agree that the thorough process of investigation and judgement that the family makes is a sound process, and I think that the idea of these arranged marriages ending in loveless forced states is exagurated. But I think people get upset with the idea that there is a lack of choice on the side of the individuals involved, particularly the woman. If as someone else commented the woman actually has a choice of when and who to marry, but the famiy is very involved in the decision making process with her best long term interests in mind then it is a truly great process that makes perfect sense! .-= john@Learn Russian Online´s last blog ..Learn To Speak Russian =-.

By: jenny@warning signs of an affair

jenny@warning signs of an affair — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 09:08:43 +0000

Arranged marriages have been around for thousands of years, but for indian people born in the west, it is far more relaxed than it used to be. I have many indian friends and I know that although there are still small pockets where forced marriages are still in play, on the whole most people do have a choice.

However saying that the old system of forcing marriage is still strong in countries like India and Pakistan. This is mainly about tradition. A joining of families which brings certain benefits to both sides. You have to keep in mind that this used to be the case in the western world hundreds of years ago. Alliances were made between families through marriage.

Ths subsided when our society became more empowered.
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By: Sally

Sally — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 20:34:29 +0000

Hi Jim

Things outside our own culture are rarely reported accurately in the media, sensationalist stories sell papers.

Of course there are some dreadful arranged marriages, with girls being “sold” and these are the stories we hear about but I have some very happy friends who are partners in arranged marriages and they simply can’t imagine dating and marrying someone just because you fancy them.

By: Sally

Sally — Wed, 14 Oct 2009 20:27:24 +0000

Hi Mildred

Most people in the West would say they are 100% responsible for their lives and they don’t let people tell them what to do. Yet we have an incredibly high divorce rate and people still get into abusive relationships every day. Does that suggest our way of dating and marrying is much better?

By: Mildred@OKC Wedding Photographers

Mildred@OKC Wedding Photographers — Sun, 11 Oct 2009 13:08:27 +0000

that you should be 100% responsible to your life! Don’t other people tell you what do to, do what ever you want to do and make full in-charge of it.

that’s what I can see from arranged marriage.

By: Jim@Wicca

Jim@Wicca — Thu, 08 Oct 2009 08:26:06 +0000

Hmmm – so it’s all quite different to what we were led to believe by the western media and doesn’t sound so bad at all. We shlouldn’t judge so quickly when our divorce rate is almost 50%!
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By: LJ

LJ — Thu, 02 Apr 2009 02:53:12 +0000

Arranged marriages are more semi-arranged now. They arent forced. They can date beforehand. They can date and then inform their parents (to seek their approval). They can find eachother/date online. Via MSN as well. And career women can use their parents to find suitable grooms because the grooms moms wont want him to marry a stupid girl. They can hire servants to do the work if they are bringing in 2 solid salaries.

Look at the divorce rate in India/Japan vs US/Sweden. Not even close.

No fault divorce is a joke. Divorce should try to be avoided.